Hi Ladies, I don't know how many of you are out there but I was just looking for some "help". I have an intern this year and she is phenomenal. Her husband is in the National Guard and being deployed to Afghanistan for a year. He leaves Thursday for training, will be back for Thanksgiving, and then leaves again for training before being deployed in January. Having no military experience I am just looking for general "advice". I know that we are not all the same and she will certainly cope in whatever way she needs to but I am wondering any of you have gone through this and what your friends and family were able to do for you to make things easier. She lives far from school so DH and I have offered for her to stay with us if there is ever inclement weather and she does not feel safe to drive the hour home. We will certainly invite her over for dinner and I will invite her out for ladies nights. These are all things I would do for any of my friends no matter what they were going through. I don’t want to be overbearing but I certainly don’t want to ignore how difficult this is going to be for her – at the same time I don’t want to be presumptions in assuming that I “know how hard this must be”. As she was leaving today (she is taking tomorrow off to be with her DH) I said, “I won’t always know what to say but I will always have a hug for you.” We hugged and she started crying. DH and I met her DH last weekend. We had them over for dinner. Her DH is awesome and they are so sweet together. My heart breaks for them. Any advice you could share would be greatly appreciated. Of course there is the general “ just be there for her” but if there is something in particular that your friends/family did for you that really helped I would love to hear it. Thank you for reading.