So I got a dress

tasha_carlos

Well yesterday I went an paid a deposit on my dress and I dont know if I did the right thing. I mean the dress is beautiful but it was $1100 and I only work part time 2 days a month and a full time mom, and student so my htb is paying for mostly everything and insisted I get what I love and I did but my mom thinks I am a fool for spending so much on a dress. I don't know my friends think its ok but I don't know how to be happy now that my mom thinks I'm foolish.

lilyswish

It's your wedding day & given how hard you work (mom, student & part-time work, wow!!!), it sounds like you deserve to have the wedding you want, including the dress!!!

bridesrighthand

Ditto both pp....do NOT let her upset you about this. Enjoy your dress!

mikesboo23

As long as that $1100 didn't take the majority of your wedding budget then I don't think it's foolish.  He wanted you to get what you want.  If on the other hand you spent 1/2 of the total budget on your dress then yes that would be foolish.

jagore08

My MIL paid $25 for her dress (she made it and they eloped) so when I bought my dress she thought the price was outrageous. Just don't let it bother you. They come from different times (and if she's anything like my MIL she's frugal). Enjoy your dress.

Googs79

Tell your mom to watch Say Yes to the Dress and see how much those dresses cost.  $1100 is a very reasonable price for a wedding dress.  Don't let anybody get you down when it comes to the wedding.  You sound like such a rock star!  Working mom and student!  AND you've done all that and maintained an intimate relationship!  Wow!  I think your htb is right...get what you love.  You deserve it.

midnite007x

if its "the one" then you did the right thing!!!

clseale13

If you love the dress I wouldn't stress about it. I had the same issues w/my dress. I was lucky that my mom and step dad were purchasing it but I definitely went over budget. They said $1,000 but I was hoping for less than $800...my dress was $1275. At first, I know that price was a bit ridiculous to them too...but once my mom saw it on me she insisted that I get it. When I offered to pay the difference she got very upset w/me and wouldn't even consider that. Now I feel guilty.

mbcdefg

As long as you can afford it, and you're not denying your child(ren) anything because of it, then you're fine. You should feel happy and confident in your dress. And all things considered, $1100 isn't a ton of money for a wedding dress - I think it's about average.

tasha_carlos

Thank you everyone I guess I'm letting my mom get in my head cuz my htb is so good to me and she thinks my spending b4 him was crazy and now I found some1 who loves me just the way I am (I know he is my soulmate) and shops just as much if not more, that she kind of feels that I will take advantage of him. The dress was only  about 10% of our total budget. We still have $9000 to set aside for the wedding now. And the orginial price was $1250 and I negotiated a 15% off the price plus got a free veil and shoes valued at $200 so I think I did a great job. Anyway I just got to keep it to myself when it comes to cost for now on, when she ask just say it's within our budget and leave it at that.

DeniseJesse8809

Sidenote... sounds like you have a super awesome FI!  And enjoy the dress!  If he is supporting your desicion and it makes you feel beautiful and happy then look at it as an investment into a family heirloom.  Congrats!