Anyone purchase a Backup Dress?

kjane12

I only came in a bridal shop to try on dresses, without any intention of buying that day (it was my first day to shop for dresses).  I had brought my mom and sister, who is my matron of honor.  One of the dresses I was wearing, when I just walked out of the dressing room, my sister was so emotional, she had started crying and stopped taking pictures.  She was taking lots of pictures before then.  There after that everyone kept saying that was the one, but I felt really nothing for it.  And I figured they were there for that reason.  Because the dress was discountinued, it was marked down, was the only one in my size, and then the store was closing, I felt pressured to get it.I don't love it, and I feel like I only got it because everyone made such a hustle and bustle about it.  It's a georgeous dress, but I still want to find the "it" feeling with warm fuzzies.  I never got that.  For a week I've been lying to myself.  I've finally expressed it to my family and now my mom is upset telling me that I should only buy a dress now 2 months before the wedding, in case I "change my mind" again.  I don't even know if she's willing to go shopping with me again.  I still want her there with her input.  I know it's a very expensive mistake, but I figure I can always wear it if I never find the ONE.  This can be my backup dress, even though I'm not happy.  Anyone else have a backup dress?Anyone else not happy with their dress?

Bether112

I'm having second thoughts about my dress, too.  I absolutely love, love, loved it in the store, but now I keep looking at it online and I just don't know.  My parents already paid for it and I kinda figure there's nothing I can do about it at this point, but I know how you're feeling.  I keep reminding myself that everyone loves it that has seen me in it, and even though it doesn't give me "the feeling," I'll still look like a beautiful bride on my wedding day.

becs11048

Hey there, sorry you are going through this. I kind of have a love hate relationship with my dress (PIB) so I know where you are coming from, that being said it is because something was said by my step-mom, prior to that I loved it. I am a little anxious now though, and my mom said the same thing as yours, as in we could get a new dress. When she said that I looked online and didn't find anything that I thought looked like me, so for me it helped me fall back in love with my dress. If you have places near you that have dresses available off the rack in your size, and your budget allows it, it doesn't hurt to look. You may end up liking the dress you have better if you see what else is out there.

becs11048

What dress is it?

sme168

Becs-- I love your dress! It looks great on you, and I've not seen one with that style bodice. OP--is two months enough time to get in a new dress and do alterations? Would it be easier for a seamstress to change up the dress you have now--change the neckline, make it a corsette back, add/remove straps, etc?  

becs11048

sme - thanks!

chrystalyn

i don't have a "backup dress", but i do have 2 dresses. i couldn't decide between very elegant and long and minimalistic or fun and retro and short. i wound up getting both for the price i had budgeted for one. however, and i think b/c one is more comfortable than the other, i'm not very excited about one of them. the first one (ceremony) is a long kay unger that's very light and airy. the 2nd is a maggie sottero short retro style (reception). they're both strapless but the 2nd is so much more comfy (not as tight!). i will say this though... 2 months is plenty of time. i started planning my wedding 2.5 months out and found the short dress on my first day of shopping. i found the 2nd within 2 weeks. good luck!

tadrousl

I also bought a second dress.  I purchased the first dress I tried on two days after my engagement because I felt rushed to get a dress.  Then I found out I really didn't like it.  But my mom also bought it for me and I felt guilty about not liking it and also thought I was stuck with it.  I ended up going to a bridal consignment store and finding a brand new Maggie Sottero gown for 1/2 of it's retail cost.  And since I was able to take it from the store that day, alterations only took a couple weeks at my local tailor.  I couldn't be happier and am so glad I did it.  My mom was a great sport and only wanted me to be happy.  I'm going to try and sell my first dress which still has the tags on it and if I can recover a little money great.  But even if I don't, I'm so happy to have the dress I dreamed of wearing and I can't wait to wear it in 64 days!! I wish you the best of luck.

alliecarrie41

no.  i didn't have the time or money to even think about buying another gown.  you picked it for a reason when you bought it, it'll look beautiful on you and everyone will think so, and you might be kidding yourself thinking you'll find "the one."  i tried over a hundred dresses on and never had that "the one" feeling.  you just pick what is beautiful and you can see yourself wearing for a few hours. 

kjane12

**katie.brevitz** -- Firstly, how were you able to return your dress?Secondly, you might be happy trying on this dress you found and see if you love it.  If you have any extra time, look for someone who's selling this dress in your size, online or in your area for great deals.  Perhaps you are still able to return your second dress?

chrystalyn

so i said the other day that i wasn't very excited about my first dress. well, my future mother-in-law and i did some revisions (it was strapless and added organza to make it a one shoulder) and i love it just as much as the other one. that sounds so wierd. but now i have 2 dresses that are totally different and crazy amazing. i think it's really important to have something you love. i was feeling really sort of sad because there were 2 aspects that i REALLY wanted in a dress but everything i had seen were so far out of my price range. then, all of a sudden, i thought... we can add a little here and there and it's now amazing. between the two, it's everything i wanted. and yes, 2 months is plenty to get a dress and alterations. my lady got both dresses done in less than 2 weeks. and there's nothing wrong w/ reselling the first dress if it's not perfect anymore. i got a pair of shoes from ebay (sigh) and they were too small. i had to resell them, made about $15, and bought a pair that are just as wonderful. you never know... you might make a profit! good luck!