superstitious?

SE1723

I know the groom is not supposed to see the bride in her gown before the wedding, but I wanted pictures in my dress...didn't have anyone else to take them...and my fiance wouldn't because of that superstition.  I think it's silly, but understand a lot of people believe in it. He didn't want me to leave the room I was in because he didn't want to see it. So I did the best I could and took pics myself lol. Not what I was hoping for, but will do for now. Did anyone's fiance see the dress before the wedding? Like trying them on, at your house, even for the married girls...right before the ceremony for pictures? Oh I wanted to take pics because I bought the dress a size too small and as I'm losing weight I wanted to see how it looks. I can zip it up, it's just snug. Kind of wanted before and after pics to show my progress. Guess I'll just have to wait to find someone to come over and take pics...or I guess I could take the dress to someone else's house.

Ciaram22

My FI was with me when I bought it. He saw me try on the sample which was a size 20 and I'm a 14. He knows what it looks like to a certain extent but hasn't seen the one I got on me.FI is very adamant about not seeing my actual dress on me even though he knows everything about it.

bridesrighthand

I've been married 5 years. DH did NOT see me in it, nor did he know what the dress looked like. It was not for superstition sake, but for the "wow" factor. I wanted him to be totally surprised when he saw me walk down the aisle. IMO it's a very special moment and you'll regret letting him see it, if you do.

KappaUCF20

I'm not superstitious so I had no problem with DH seeing my dress before the wedding.  He actually helped me make the final decision. He saw me try it on at home a couple times, and we took our pictures before the ceremony so he also saw it then.

mikesboo23

I didn't want FI to see it but I took pics of myself in it and they were on my computer.  He was looking for pics to put on a digital photo frame and found them.  He doesn't mind that he's seen it but I don't like it.  That could be part of the reason I really want a different one.

grace_anthony

i did not let him see it or pictures of the dress. i wanted the wow factor as well when i walked down the aisle. nothing beats that look

KappaUCF20

Just for the record, I don't think I lost the "wow factor" at all, and DH confirmed that lol.  The gown looks totally different on the wedding day when you have the veil on, hair and makeup done, etc.  And either way, your DH is going to be majorly impressed by how beautiful you are, regardless of whether he's already seen the dress or not .

mbcdefg

I showed him pictures of gowns I'd tried on (I actually valued his opinion a lot because he was honest with me when a gown I thought was "the one" clearly wasn't working for me), and I've shown him the photo of the one I purchased multiple times. I'm not sure if we'll see each other before the ceremony, but neither of us are opposed to it. It's more a question of timing than superstition. I'll absolutely let him see the dress once it comes in, if he wants to see it. If our marriage doesn't work out somehow, it won't be because he saw my wedding dress beforehand.

NuggetBrain

The whole "wow" walking down the aisle thing is all well and good, but we are getting married on a Friday and don't have time to have all our pictures done afterwards unless we want to have a early ceremony (which we don't).  So we are doing all of our pictures before, which means he'll see me in my dress then.  Our photog said that its a good idea too because then they can get some pictures of our expressions when we first see each other on our wedding day, and we can do the little "jump and squee and tear up and gaze at each other" without a bunch of people watching us.

jilliibabii

I wanted to do the same as nugget, since we're having ours on a Friday also, but FI refuses. The first time he wants to see me in the dress is walking down the aisle. In fact he was looking through my camera the other day at pics from a night out and he suddenly covered his eyes and handed me the camera. I asked what was wrong and he said he "saw white" meaning pics of me in wedding dresses. LOL. I don't know if it's superstition or wow factor or just plain old tradition for FI.

Aleighy617

mine knows NOTHING about my dress.  at all.  he doesn't want to know anything.  and i think it's kinda fun that way beacuse then we get that real "first look" element to the pictures on the day of. 

junelley

I haven't bought THE dress, yet, but my FI has gone dress shopping with me.  Neither he nor I are superstitious and we don't mind seeing each other before the ceremony.  We are also taking photos before the ceremony so we won't miss the cocktail hour.  I did ask FI what he thought about the wow factor, and he said he's not worried about it at all, that he has been wowed every time I try on a dress and he is sure he'll be even more wowed on the day of because I'd be all made up and with veils, jewelry, etc.  

karma007

FI saw my dress before it underwent massive alterations; now he won't see me in it until the photo shoot before the wedding. I'm not at all superstititious, so I'm not worried about it being bad luck.  

chasegl

For the same reasons bridesrighthand and other PPs have said, FI won't see the dress until I walk down the aisle.  Even if that wasn't my policy, he has refused to even look at wedding dresses in the magazines because he doesn't want to have any idea what mine 'could' look like.  He wants no details whatsoever.  I think it's sweet that it's so important to him.