Will I be able to find my dress???

forrma7

I've found a dress that I absolutely love. Seriously. It's "The Dress"The problem is, I'm not engaged...yet. My boyfriend and I are getting engaged at the end of next summer, then married the following summer.So basically, it's too soon to buy the dress, obviously, and I don't want to go try it on and ruin that special "dress trying" moment.It's the Martina Liana 203 dress, from the 2009 collection, and still on the website. But I'm afraid by the time I am actually ready to try on dresses, it won't be available for me to buy, let alone try on!I realize that there are a million dresses out there, and I'll never know until I start to try them on, but it's just everything I think I want by looks alone. I'd be devestated if I didn't even have the chance to put it on to see!!So, anyone, advice? Do you think I'd be able to find the dress by the end of next summer?Thanks all!!

hanron007

I'm really not trying to be snarky but I think you should stop looking at dresses and making any plans until you are actually engaged. Everything you look at now may be unavailable by the time you get engaged.

nrskrs

I looked at a million dresses online, wrote down the designer and style numbers and highlighted and starred the ones I thought were the one.  The list went out the door when I went dress shopping.  I loved Pronovias gowns...tried on a few and disliked how they looked on me.  Tried on some Maggies, Sophia Tolli, etc....the dress I walked out with was not one I had ever seen online (and still can't find online) and it was the most beautiful dress I think I've ever seen (to me).  I guarantee that you will find dresses that you love on you that you weren't expecting you would and find that you absolutely hate dresses on you that you love.  So to make a long post longer...don't hang your hopes up on one dress, esp with you not being engaged yet, because you'll end up finding one you love and you will totally forget about the dress you think is the "one" right now.

missamory

You will be surprised how much your will change your mind while dress shopping. I thought I had my dress picked out so many times. But I bought one two weeks ago and am getting married in October 2009. I wouldn't advise waiting as long as I did because that becomes stressful. Good luck.

Googs79

Oh my!  By looking at dresses at this point, you are really setting yourself up for disappointment in so many ways.  That doesn't mean you can't dream of your wedding and look forward to being married one day...All girls do that!  But really, you are already planning your devastation about not trying on a dress for a wedding with a man that you aren't even engaged to?  Come on.  Try to focus your emotional energy on here-and-now, concrete things that you can actually do something about.  Good luck with your relationship...hope it works out for you so you can try on that special dress.

jilliibabii

First of all, it's a 2009 style then yes you'll be able to find it by next summer. Second of all, just because you like the look of it online does not mean it's going to look good on you in person. 50% of the dresses I loved online, I hated on me, especially the dress I thought I'd wind up with. Lastly, don't *seriously* look at dresses until you're engaged. Thousands of new styles are going to come out between now and the time you go dress shopping.

a2crane

Awww, I just read through everyone else's comments and please don't let them get you down. If you know that you are going to get engaged, it is totally okay to start looking at things and planning (that is what I did so I wasn't so stressed with school and wedding planning when I finally got engaged). There are other websites like weddingbee.com and weddingbycolor that may be more supportive with your questions And to answer your question, I think that you will definitely be able to find that dress by next summer. It will be somewhere...there are a TON of places to look (even online like preownedweddingdresses and oncewed). Good luck with your planning and soon to be engagement!!!

jilliibabii

a2crane- How were we unsupportive?! Because a wedding isn't just about the bride- the groom should have a say in the planning, too, and that's kind of impossible to do without being engaged. If they're both planning the wedding together at this point, well then Mazel Tov! You're engaged! You don't need the ring to be engaged. That being said, I *still* wouldn't buy the dress 2 years- engaged or not.

razdazzle_22377334

For all of the other reason posted, WAIT.  In my opinion, trying on wedding dresses is one of the best parts of being engaged and planning a wedding.  But it really should be done after you are engaged.  Think about it, do you even know what kind of wedding you and Fi will have?  Do you know the date that you and FI will tie the knot, or where the wedding will be held?  Will it be a formal or casual affair? All of these factors will really help you decide what type of dress is appropriate.  Any dress available now, and probably more styles, will still be around when you get engaged. Also, no offense, and I don't know you or your boyfriend...but trying on or buying wedding dresses before your engaged is enough to make any man run in the other direction.

jilliibabii

Couldn't have said it better myself razdazzle! Did you decide on what dress you're getting? I know you posted asking for advice recently!

KappaUCF20

Yes, the dress will still be around next summer.  Also, I agree with everyone else.  You really should wait until you're officially engaged to start looking.  If you stick around this board long enough, you'll see that there are a lot of two dress brides (and even 3 and 4 dress brides! lol) because they bought a gown too soon and ended up finding something else they liked better.  It can end up being a huge, expensive ordeal.  Save yourself the trouble and wait.