How do you know

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when you have found the one? :-( I have been to a few different stores a total of 6 times. I am going to try more dresses on Friday, and one of them that is in the running for top 2. I thought I had found the one, but when I went to try it on a second time it was not the same. So many dresses are so pretty it is hard to choose. I am also having a hard time imagining how each dress will look once it is made to fit me. I am 5'3" and as you know all of the dresses are made for 5'9". All I can think about is wedding dresses I can't wait to be able to check this off of my list. Any advice? Sorry for the long, probably rambling post. :-) TIA

jagore08

I honestly never had "the one" feeling. I went to many salons and tried on many many dresses. There were a few that looked good on me but still I didn't get that feeling. In the end my father is the one who actually picked out my dress. He said he got the "it's the one" feeling so it was good enough for me.

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Thanks! Well he did a good job! You looked beautiful! :-) I am bringing the family along for the first time Friday. I am hoping that they will be able to help. People close to us have the ability to see in us what we cannot see in ourselves. I hope that it doesn't get too confusing. My Mom, Grandma, little brother, and FMIL will all be there.  

ggmae

I never had "The One" feeling about my dress either. IMO, that feeling only comes when someone finds the right person for them, not the right wedding dress. I think the whole finding "The One" (wedding dress) is all hype, but that's JMO. Anyway, the reason I purchased my dress was because I had found 2 that I loved, slept on it for a few days, and kept thinking about Dress #1. I figured that was a good enough reason to get that specific dress. I am sure that other dresses would have been great wedding dresses as well (meaning that mine wasn't "The One"), but I purchased the one that I felt and looked best in.

Spim7

The dress that to me was the "one" from the minute I saw it became the wrong one when I put it on. After that I tried on different styles and found one that looked great on me, my Mom loved it, I love the way I look in it and how it feels so I decided that's what mattered the most. The dress feels like the one now because I know that's what I'll be wearing when I marry the man that means the world to me.

JalilaSeb

When I found my dress I didn't cry and there were no fireworks going off, but i still knew it was it because I just didn't want to take it off.  I loved it and when I came out of the dressing room everyone looked at me...people I didn't even know were telling me I looked great,so that of course reassured me and I knew it was the one.  I didn't try any on after that because I didn't want to confuse myself..and i've been happy with my decision.One word of advice, its good to take people with you but definitely not too many.  Too may opinions do more hurt than good.  Good Luck!

The_Future_Mrs_Rickels

I have had lots of the one feelings.  I had 4 dresses that I liked and thought would fit.  I absolutly love my dress and see myself in it on my wedding day but I also could have been just as happy with any of the other dresses I loved. I dont think i would have ever had the one feeling.  For some people it just doesnt happen.  I also hated dress shopping so that didnt help.  I didnt like how every time you put on a dress everyone stared at you waiting for some sort of overwhelming reaction.  I never had that reaction.  I did get super excited once I got my dress and it was delivered to my house. 

Brie2010

I was in your position--I liked pretty much everything and thought all the dresses were beautiful.  I didn't sob and freak out when I found mine, I just kind of got the warm fuzzies and was like, "yup, this is it."  It all just clicked for me and I knew I didn't have to ask anyone's opinion--I was shopping alone that day and bought the dress without anyone else's opinion but the saleslady's that day.  Everyone agreed later on that it was perfect, but I know the decision was 100% mine.I definitely suggest going alone--that way you're not dealing with sorting out the difference between other people's opinions and your own.

mbcdefg

I didn't have a fireworks feling or anything, but I smiled a lot in the one I eventually bought. With all the other dresses, even I liked them, I'd make statements like, "This would be perfect if it didn't have XXX" or "I like this but we'd have to fix YYY." With this one, I liked everything about it, and I felt happy just standing there wearing it. Plus, it was a dress that I'd found online and called ahead to the salon to try on. So part of that may have been my gratification that the dress I came to see looked good on me ... I had done that with another dress a few days prior, and when I tried it on it clearly wasn't working for me. My mom also liked it. She kept commenting how heavy other dresses made me look, but said that this one had a more slimming effect. And it wasn't as expensive as some other dresses I liked.

metalkp

I have the exact same problem. I have narrowed it down to two dresses, but how do I choose? Go for the one that's the cheapest? The one my family likes best? (I don't know which one I like better but my family has a clear fave). I really wish I could try them on side by side but they do not have them at the same store.

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metalkp~ That is another issue for me as well. The two dresses that it finally came down to are at different stores. I think that you definitely need to try them on back to back otherwise your mind starts to play tricks on you. I am anxious about bringing so many people with me, but if I don't feeligns will be hurt. I think that I just need to keep my clear site of my own feelings. I am mostly afraid about bringing my FMIL, I don't want her opinion to push me into a dress that really isn't the one, or to avoid a dress that may be the on just because she likes it. :-S Thanks for all of the advice ladies it is very helpful and also comforting knowing that I am not the only one who has not had that "The One" feeling.  

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PS ~ The top 2 were Moonlight J5971 & Casablanca 1901I also liked Casablanca 1945. Let me know what you think. I am going to try a few new one's on tomorrow.    

jbifro

This is great to know that we are all in the same boat, but not great hearing that you are frustrated. I feel like I have so much to say. I wish I could call into a phone line and talk to someone rather than type it all out! Before trying on dresses, I had heard from so many people that I will know when it is "the dress." "You will jump up and down and dance around." I was like, uh no, that isn't me. I am a very indecisive person so I wondered if that experience would happen with me and it didn't. I think being told this can cause some anxiety, especially when it was the 4th or 5th time going shopping and I still hadn't found the dress. I believe it was my 3rd time trying on dresses (same place and same sales rep) and she even sensed that I was anxious. I wasn't very happy and I think it was because I was getting worried and tired of looking. It is fun to try them on but it takes up a lot of time and other people's time, etc. One thought I had going into wedding dress shopping is that I didn't want the dress I chose to look like everyone else's. We had several friends that got married this summer so I saw a lot of different dresses. Anyway, I finally decided on my dress 2 weeks ago and it is was a big relief! After trying on about 25 dresses, I was down to two dresses, which were very different and they weren't at the same store. I wanted to be able to try them on one right after the other as well. I tried on the dress that I didn't end up getting 6 times. It was beautiful and I know I would have been happy if I would have chosen it. It even fit me better than the dress I chose so I even had a good idea of how it would look on my wedding day. On to the dress that I chose...when I tried it on the 1st time, it was tight in my stomach area and I had a hard time picturing/imagining what it would look like in my size. I am very self conscious about my stomach so it was difficult to picture. When I went back the 2nd time, I brought my spanx with me and that helped suck in my fat a little and therefore, gave me a better idea of what it would look like when it fits. The most important advice I can recommend is asking your family to be aware of how you are acting and feeling in each dress. You can try to be aware of that as well, but I don't want you to feel like you have to smile if you aren't doing it naturally. Does that make sense? Walk around in the dresses. According to my family, I smiled a lot more in the 2nd dress and that is when I decided to get it. I didn't cry like I was told I would. That wasn't the only factor in deciding. Since I struggle to make decisions, I depended on my family for their opinion. They pointed out things about the dress and the way it looked that I didn't notice. I don't know if the following helps, but I'll try to suggest some things to think about. Once you have eliminated some dresses, go back a different day and try on the ones you are still interested in. They all start to run together after awhile. Also, once you are down to a few dresses, take someone whose opinion you trust and who hasn't seen any of the dresses on you. They will provide a fresh perspective. Think about the dress and your venue. Does one dress go with the venue more than the other? When you have the dress on, try to picture yourself walking down the aisle in it. If there is anything in particular that you want in a dress? Does one of the dresses have everything you are looking for in it? Is it comfortable (if that is possible for a wedding dress? ) One dress I tried on was so heavy that it was hurting my lower back after I had it on for only 10-15 minutes. I knew I wouldn't be able to wear that all day. I trust my fiance's opinion and I was even asked, "which dress would Nick like or choose?" This isn't as important as other factors, but when I was in one of the dresses, the sales rep pointed out that the dress was very classic and in 10-20 years, I would look back and not regret my choice. Just something to think about. I hope these help rather than overwhelm you. Good Luck and feel free to ask any other questions. Wow this is long!!

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jbifro~ Thank you VERY much for sharing that with me!:-) You have offered some great advice! I especially like the part when you said to have others take note of my expressions. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and experience with me!

Sheri Ruth

I knew when I looked in the mirror and tears came to my eyes and it hit me - he asked me to marry him and I am his bride. After about 12 other dresses, it just happened.

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It finally happened :-) I had "THE ONE" feeling. Here is the dress. Thanks for all of your support http://tiny.cc/Dwh1E