HELP! The dress is in but i am having a serious change of heart

tiffboogie76

I have placed a sizeable deposit on a ball gown. I just got word last week that it was in the bridal salon. Well, I considered another A line dress but they told me it was twice the price of my ball gown so I tried to forget about the A line dress. Well, today i could not forget about it. I didn't know the manufacturer and found the A line dress for less than my ball gown. The A line dress makes me look slimmer and has a timeless, romantic feel to it. This sucks. Has anyone ever found "the one" after putting down a deposit on another dress. How did you work it out. My friend told me to say that I broke off the engagement but I am not sure if I want to do that. I don't want to pay for two dresses. HELP! I know that price is the only thing that made me say no to the A line dress. .

cmk1215

Yes, I bought one and found "the one" after because I always had doubts about the one I chose.  I didn't buy "the one" because it was more than I wanted to spend, especially after already buying one.  Alterations did not go well with my first dress and I was almost in tears thinking about having to wear it.Well, I ended up buying "the one" 15 days before my wedding.  Lucky for me the dress was in great shape, in my size and color so the lady at the shop sold it to me as a sample.  So it all worked out for me in the end, plus I got the dress for a sample price.But with my experience I kept telling myself I still like the dress I have and will just wear that one.  Many of the same reasons I liked the 2nd dress were for the same reasons you do.  I would talk to them and see if they can bring down the price of the A-line dress.  You would be surprised at how much people are willing to negotiate.  That might help your decision...if you haven't forgotten about it and love if that much more you probably won't.  I am VERY happy  I changed my mind and bought "the one."  I just wish I did it sooner!

cmk1215

Sorry, one more addition to my long post!  I am just going to try to sell the other dress.  My other dress wasn't too terribly expensive so it is worth the chance to me.  Look at your receipt - if you do not pick up the dress do you just lose the downpayment?  If you negotiate down the other dress and only lose that it may be the same in the end...

tiffboogie76

my receipt says that even after making a deposit I still must buy the dress. no exchanges, no refunds, blah blah blah.

cmk1215

I know I am really biased because of my experience but I know how stressful this is.  My wedding is in 9 days and I just bought my 2nd dress on Friday!!! You have the option of just buying the dress, keeping all tags on and not doing alterations, that way you could probably get more money for it.  I know in my area some shops will buy wedding dresses, or you could try to sell on your own.  Of course you are taking a gamble there - not sure how much you spent on it and your budget. If you buy the other dress I would ask them if they can go lower in the price.   You could do some shopping around (check internet sits like netbride and house of brides for prices) and see what they can do.  That way it is a little easier on the wallet at least.   Good luck!  Let us know what you decide!

kjane12

Catloree, your story sounds exactly like mine! I may be a two-dress bride after I order "the one" in two weeks, so I'll have to sell my first dress after my second dress comes in. My sister told me not to settle on a dress. And as much as my mom hates the fact that I will not be wearing my first dress, after a while she started to understand saying, "you really have to love your dress, otherwise you won't enjoy yourself as much." It's true, you don't want to have regrets as the day comes closer to your wedding.