Future siser-in-law wedding dress issue

linneaj

My fiance's brother got engaged 2 months after us. Yesterday my future sister-in-law and I were discussing wedding plans and of course dresses. I told her I had ordered my gown in Aug. (our date is July '10) I asked her if she started looking and she said she has and she's only found one she loves and it's the same designer I chose my dress from. I thought that was cool. Later,we were looking in wedding dresses in mags and she said she didn't like any of them cuz she's really picky.I wanted her to show me her dress online. It turns out the dress she likes is the SAME one I ordered. I feel really bad. I know how I'd feel if that happened to me. Her face was so disappointed and shocked. I've been looking for dresses online that she might like since we obviously have the same taste, lol! Suggestions?

jagore08

More dress shopping. There are thousands of dresses and I'm sure there is another one out there for her. Try looking for a similar style. What dress did you order?

linneaj

Demetrios 2795

meredithl618

yeah, I'd suggest telling her to keep looking at styles she likes and encourage her to try on lots of things. Plus, who knows what she will actually like when she tries them on! I wouldn't worry about this too much! She'll find the one for her!

Barakins

Have her take a picture of the wedding dress with her to the dress store and say, "This is the dress I love, but I just found out that my future SIL had already ordered this dress for her own wedding and now I'd like to find something similar, but that I can still call my own." The consultant should be able to help. Mostly what will help, though, is getting her into other dresses.

mbcdefg

Relax. Everything I picked out from the Internet at the beginning of my shopping looked awful on me. The dress that I wound up buying was not something that I'd originally given a second thought to. Just encourage her to try on a bunch of different things, and take it from there. She has to see what works for her body before she can definitively say, "Yes! This is what I want!"And if, by some chance, the dress that you ordered is really the one for her, then that's truly not that big of a deal. People really won't notice or care, plus your different body types and accessories will make it look different. And it just means that you both have great taste.

linneaj

All true, lol! kinda sucks that our weddings are 2 months apart though.

junelley

Kind of nice that your FSIL and you have a similar taste.  My FSIL and I have very very different tastes and I wouldn't even care to show her the dresses I like knowing she'd turn her nose up at them.  As for your problem, there are SO many dresses out there.  She might like your dress online but has she tried it on?  Since you have such similar taste, help her out by looking for dresses for her like you have been.  She still have a little bit of time left to shop around.

Vikki2pay

Even if she loves the dress and orders it to wear 2 months later, no one will know its your dress, she will look different in it. She could use different accessories. I'm sure the weddings aren't going to be the same, so a different time and place will give the wedding a whole other feel. If she tries it on and loves it, there really isn't a reason she shouldn't get it.

Voltinxi

Oooh I can imagine - my FSIL is getting married 1 month and a week after us!! Lucky for me they are more religious so no way will she be wearing a halter top :-)  Since you already ordered yours and she is just starting to look, I would think she would *want* to find something different. There are always dresses with a similar look that are different enough to make everyone happy!

kpeteley

I really liked your dress when I first started looking.  I ended up going with something totally different, but I almost bought Casablanca bridal 1884 which has the same romantic feel as your dress. - it's also very flattering- good luck

Married678

Did she even try that demetrios dress on? I loved lots of different dresses online, but when IRL, they looked awful on me personally. She may not even like it on.

alliecarrie41

there are a million dresses out there.  she will like another one and get over it.

marksmartini

That is amazing! Are you the same size? Maybe she can wear your dress and it can be a family heirloom? I think that is so cool, not only do you have the same taste but that would be a great story for your family. I agree it would look totally different with accessories and stuff. Good luck!

kvanscoyk

Amazingly enough I had the EXACT same problem.  My sister in law got engaged a month after me and my husband.  About 3 months later we were talking about our dresses- we had already both bought them- and it was the same dress!  Her wedding was 2 months before our wedding and she was unwilling to give- so I went out and bought a different dress.  luckily I had gotten a deal on the first.  It ended up being the best thing that could have happened.  I found a dress that I loved even more.  Don't sweat about this- I did and everything was fine.  I had many sleepless nights over nothing!