What kind of shoes for BM?

mtbentley

My maids will be wearing this dress in red, hemmed to just above the knee. I was thinking a nude colored shoe with a low heel would look nice. One BM has already said she doesn't like this idea because she thinks it will look like they aren't wearing shoes in photos. I am also worried because my ceremony is going to be outdoors and I am afraid their heels will sink into the grass. Any ideas?

http://www.theknot.com/bridesmaid-dress/sophia-tolli-special-occasion/by11020t

Avion22

I really don't like the idea of making them wear a really specific kind of shoe.  I have weird feet and find a lot of shoes uncomfortable, so if someone picked a shoe for me chances are I wouldn't be comfortable wearing it.

I think it's better to give your bridesmaids a guideline (something reasonable like black or nude that they may already own or would wear again) and let them pick their own shoes.  That way they can find something they are comfortable in and it will still look cohesive.

Remember that if you pick a specific shoe for them to wear, you should pay for the shoes.

SoonerMrsHun

Nude sounds good, red shoes to match with red dress, IMO it's too much...

crystalMrs

I'm a fan of nude, and not fond of red.

cwaggoner07

Red seems matchy matchy. Nude will look great!

Annas2013

I like nude shoes, but I also feel like you should pick a shoe they already have, unless you feel like paying for it especially if it's a shoe they wouldn't wear again.  I wouldn't spend a ton of money on a shoe I would only wear once, especially if it ended up not being comfortable.  

Maggie0829

I hate when the shoes match the dress color so my vote is for nude.

Chick&Guy

I think nude would look good, nude doesnt match everyone's skin tone so it would be pretty clear that they all had shoes on!

Maybe so they are more comfortable you could tell them a color and material, since patent leather nude is different than suede nude, and let them choose.  They are aware of the concern of sinking into the grass and can pick a shoe they are comfortable navigating through grass in. 

jlocascio85

I think nude would look fine too. But I also think its a good idea to let the girls pick their own shoes, that way they are comfortable. 

mtbentley

Thanks for all the advice. I hadn't heard of buying the shoes for them if I pick them out, I have only been in one wedding though and we were just told what to get, I thought that wearing what the bride wanted was part of being a BM so it never even crossed my mind to question what she wanted even though the shoes were hideous and I knew I would never wear them again. I always thought that was the norm.

For my maids I was planning on going shopping as a group to see what they liked because I do want them to have some input and have something they will wear again but I was always under the impression that the bride got to give the final okay to what they pick. Actually my family and my maids have encouraged this when I ask their input they say that, as the bride, what I want is the most important, Is that totally wrong? I guess never thought anything of it because I would do the same for them and because I never had any intention of picking something they hate or out of their budget without helping to pay.

Eliz77

They still have to put the money out to buy the shoes...I don't think you are WRONG for wanting a specific shoe, but I think since they already have to buy a dress, it's nice to let them choose a shoe that meets your requests. I asked my girls to pick gray/silver, open-toed, sandal type shoes, and provided a couple links to what I was envisioning.  I already knew 3 of the 5 girls had that type of shoe in their closet, which made me feel better they'd be comfortable. Shoes, IMO, are the least important detail for me to micromanage, and I want to make sure they are comfortable since they'll be in them for 6+ hours!

I do think if a bride is going to demand her BMs wear some extravagant shoe that may not be reworn again, they should pay for them. I was in one wedding where the bride did this because she had the shoes dyed a specific color, and it was a shoe none of us would re-wear (unless re-wearing the BM dress, which I doubt happened!).