Not getting 'the one' feeling PIP

lagiocanda

I've gone shopping twice for my wedding gown- once with my mom and grandmother who live out of town, once with my bridesmaids. I tried on about 7 dresses each time, and I haven't gotten any strong feelings for one gown yet- I really like a lot of them. My bridesmaids both cried when I put on this Da Vinci 50042 dress, and I could see myself being happy getting married in it.

Has anyone else just not had a 'the one' feeling? Does it mean I haven't found it yet and should keep looking? Or should I go with one I really like and my bridesmaids think is the one? I'm just under 6 months out so I'm short for time...

Thanks for any advice!

LeiselEB

I felt like mine was the one and was thrilled with it...until I got home and started rethinking it and feeling like I should have kept looking.

I went back the next day and tried it on again and loved it still. I think it's common to have doubts, or to not be absolutely in love with your dress. I'd say take some time and just stop looking at other dresses, see how you feel in a week or so, and then decide if you want to keep looking or if you're happy with your dress.

kateguess22

Just take your time. Don't rush yourself.

meganb1977

I didn't have an emotional reaction to my dress either.  Just "Oh, I could wear this one."  It worked for my body and the vibe I wanted.  And it REALLY fit within my budget.  Your dress will be more "you" once you add any accessories you will be wearing.  Once I had my shoes and my veil on with the dress I decided, "Oh yeah I'm gonna rock this look."  If you can see yourself being happy and got such a strong reaction from your bridesmaids compared to other dresses you tried on, you just might have found your dress :-)

achiduck

Like PP said, take your time. Also remember that not everyone has a hysterical, jumping up and down type "the one" moment. I didn't, but I love my dress just the same.

AurorasEnvy

I didn't really have that feeling either - I guess you could say I came to a gradual decision.  I definitely knew I really liked what ended up to be my dress, but I came back to it after I had gone and tried on other dresses after.  Even when I went back to try on the dress again and "say yes", I didn't have any super strong emotion.  Obviously I was happy, but I didn't have the reaction that they always show on TV.  Sounds like you are in a similar situation, so I'd go out one last time - and if you don't find anything else you like, I think you'll have your answer.  Good luck =]

BekahL90

I was pretty sure my dress was "the one" when I found it, but there were still a couple things I wasn't sure about. I went ahead and bought it and I'm really glad I did. Each time I try it on, I love it more! Just be sure not to let your bridesmaids talk you into something. Only go for the dress if YOU love it! Don't buy the dress just to please someone else.

caterpillar85

I didn't have that feeling. I would wear jeans to my wedding if I could get away with it, so naturally dress shopping was more of a chore than a fun outing. I bought one because it was within my budget, it was "me" and looked good on me. I found out that it was my mom's favorite of the ones I tried on.
There are so many beautiful dresses out there that even the girls that find "the one" might get a little buyer's remorse about it and kind of wish they had a different dress. It's kind of like buying a car, there are so many out there that you would love to drive, but you have to pick one eventually. Some people freak out when they find it, others don't.

That dress is gorgeous btw.

bezelpup

I had a frustrating first shopping day today because everything I thought I wanted looked terrible on me, and everything I thought I wouldn't want looked great. I think there were a lot of "almosts" just because they looked good, but there were no "wow factor" dresses. My mom, two sisters, and friend didn't agree on any of them, so I don't think I've found "the one".

breaness

I smiled a lot when I put on the dress I got because I looked great in it. No tears, no "the dress" moment, but it was the right one for me. Don't rush it and don't wait for that feeling. Some people just don't get it.

melntaitt

If you go by the reactions on tv you will be looking for a long, long time. The dress should suit your body, personality and the theme of your wedding. You should also feel pretty in it, but there doesn't need to be some overwhelming tear-jerking moment.

My dress made me happy; I didn't cry, or jump up and down. My dress made me feel pretty and it was the only one I dared to try on. I liked it on the rack, liked it on me and I like it everytime I think about it.

lagiocanda

Thanks for all the advice! I think I'll go back by myself, see how I feel, and make my decision.

bezelpup

I think the fit is the most important.  You don't want to hate all your wedding photos because you tried to make something work that doesn't flatter you! And you have to decide that for yourself.

I ended up buying a dress today that I wouldn't even have considered trying on. The pictures online and in the catalog made it look like just another dress, and in reality  there are so many details and features that I just loved it when I put it on!  There was another dress that fit perfectly, and I would have bought it, it just has fewer special touches.

And now I will stop looking! No need to start second guessing the decision.