HELP! Is my wedding dress too plain?

wiveswinil

A while ago I started dress shopping. Since we have limited stores here, I picked this one out visiting my fourth store, that was not an AA but this is still the dress I got:
We planned to have a beach wedding, so I thought this would be perfect. I had a sash with a lot of bling sewn on, so it looks prettier than in the picture.
However, now we're gonna have it inside instead, and here in the cold.
I went to try it on again yesterday after it had been altered and I want to cry. I feel like it's waaaay to plain, but my options are limited.
Since I am a plus size bride, they dont have as many gowns to try on as for petite brides. And I refuse to buy a dress because it looks good, it might not be flattering at all on.
My dream dress is a typical ball gown, either lace or pick ups and big and poufy, everything this dress it not. I want more on the bottom and back.
I tried to let my sales consultant sell me another dress, but she and my maid of honor says this is right.
So now we are talking about adding appliques or pick ups, but I don't know what to buy to make it look right..
I am just so sad right now.
They told me to add a pretty veil and accessories but its still plain..
I look at other wedding dresses here on tpf and on other sites as well and I just want to rip my hair out.
I found a perfect dress at Davids Bridal but all the beading made my armpits hurt..
Any suggestions?
Oh, I nearly forgot to post the dress image.
dress here

Cortney1982

I don't see the dress.  A sales consultant not willing to SELL!!!  Anyhoo,this is your wedding, if you are that unhhappy with the dress find a new one. 

HoppJS2012

Honestly I think way to many brides think they need to look like a disco ball... A simple wedding dress is very elegant. Mayge add a simple decorative piece around your waist that ties with ribbon. They have some beautiful ones at davids bridal you can order online. My gown is simple but I'm accessorizing it! Just remember don't over do it, a little goes a long way This piece from davids bridal took on of the simplest dreeses I tried on and turned it into a beautiful gown! It accents a nice waistling too!! I know it is a headband, but they said you can order the ribbon longer if needed, it's gorgeaous! 

  Ribbon Headband with Floral Rhodium Side Motif Style H7593

  http://www.davidsbridal.com/Browse_Accessories-Headpieces-All-Headpieces__pageSize-all

 

meganb1977

OP, I understand you want to feel special and not plain.  I think the style of your dress is simple without being plain, especially once you add your accessories.  It's more classic.  The pick up and appliques are a trend which will look dated in 10-20 years.  No offense to fiance's sister, but all I have to do is look back at her 1990's wedding dress with the beading and high neckline and poofy sleeves to remind myself that I made a wise decision to go with something more simple and classic that I'm still going to feel good about when I look back on my wedding photos after styles have changed.

We all thought Princess Diana's big fancy dress was amazing, but in hindsight, it was hard to see HER under all of that dress.  You made a wise choice to go with a dress where you fiance can still see the woman he loves when you come down the aisle.

natsfans84

I LOVE this dress-- you'll look gorgeous in it! You could use a sash like in the picture, and it will add a little something extra. Like PP said, by the time you add in your shoes, hair, makeup, and jewelry, this dress will look anything but plain.

MLincoln17

I think once you have your hair done, veil on, and makeup done you will change your mind about this dress.  We all have dress woes because it is such a big day in our lives.  Trust me, I question my dress all the time.  At the end of the day, if you do not like it and it is going to be the determining factor for your happiness on your wedding day, go look for another dress.  You have to do what is right for you.  I am sure you look stunning in your gown and you are just letting your nerves get the best of you!

Magdala9

A simple dress makes the bride the star of the day.  I am not sure why you are concerned.  You have a beautiful silk a-line ball gown there.   Look for a great necklace to highlight your decolatage and some great shoes with a bit of bling.  Rhinestone embellishments on the shoes would look fantastic.  

blgrout

I think it's a beautiful dress, but if you're not happy with it, you have options.  If you have the budget, get a new dress if this one makes you that unhappy.  Or, you can sell this one and buy another one, as long as there's enough time before your wedding.  If time and money doesn't allow for you to get a new dress, there are so many ways to make what you got stand out even more.  As PP suggested, a crinoline can make it pouf out more into a ballgown, and I think that colored crinolines are awesome!  That would truly add some uniqueness .  I think a blingy sash always adds some individuality to a wedding dress, and the right accessories, (killer veil, shoes, necklace and/or earrings), will make the dress special to YOU.  There's lots you can do, just focus on finding a solution!  HTH

lesliediane80

Have you thought about putting a lace "overlay" type thing over the top portion of the dress.  It seems to be the big thing now.  I found them in most bridal shops that I looked for my dress.  I have seen some that just go over your shoulders, some that cover the whole top of the dress.  It is a whole seperate piece that you can take on and off.  I thought they really added a nice touch of elegance.  I have seen them with everything from plain lace to lace with beads and sashes. 

mellimel19

I think your dress is beautiful! But if you feel you still want to jazz it up a bit, you could always add a little bolero that has a little sparkle or beading to it.

Grits8812

I love your dress!  And as a PP said, big poofy gowns don't always flatter a plus size woman, and something like you already have is so much prettier.

I think it is a very pretty gown, and you should be proud to wear it on your big day!  Dress it up with some sparkly bracelets, earrings, necklace, whatever it is you would like.  Maybe a fun headpiece to go with your veil?  

Think of it this way, you now have a blank canvas to do anything you want with, literally.  You can dress it however you want and it will still be gorgeous.

pillsburyaj

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_wedding-dress-plain-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:287445dd-d88f-4b0b-bf15-4c260c8925e4Post:9553aae5-a08d-4560-a6ac-64043a237457">Re: HELP! Is my wedding dress too plain?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I think once you have your hair done, veil on, and makeup done you will change your mind about this dress.</strong>  We all have dress woes because it is such a big day in our lives.  Trust me, I question my dress all the time.  At the end of the day, if you do not like it and it is going to be the determining factor for your happiness on your wedding day, go look for another dress.  You have to do what is right for you.  I am sure you look stunning in your gown and you are just letting your nerves get the best of you!
Posted by MLincoln17[/QUOTE]

This.

spartybride3

oooh I love that dress. I didn't want a poofy one, but I considered buying it just to try it on. I tried on plain dresses, but jazzed them up with sashes and belts. I think if you do the black sash and put either a thinner sparkle belt on top of that or did a broach then you can get the effect you want. Also, add in a sparkly necklace and I think it will look beautiful. Love the dress. 

Also, buy what YOU want and think you look good in. I tried on dresses that my family/friends said I looked good in, but they just weren't me. Its your dress, not theirs. 

fussball007

I really like your dress!  I think there's a lot to say for dresses that have less "going on" because people will be able to focus on how you are radiating on your wedding day.  If it's a good shape for you, then by all means, keep it!

The idea I had was to add some rhinestones to the sash, but in rereading your post, it sounds like you already did it!

I'm sure whatever you choose to do, you'll look beautiful!

singing_lyn

Spammer! Posted the same exact story a couple of months ago.

trishychica

Maybe try a statement necklace? A lot of brides are doing that now and I think it dresses up a more 'simple' dress beautifully