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How can I get my estranged parents involved in my wedding?

Hello,
I am wondering if anyone of you can give me some ideas as to how I can ask my parents to be a part of my wedding. I have a very weak relationship with them,. (Main reason was because I wanted to go to college to study music instead of something "smarter" like they wanted me to.) At one point they did not want anything to do with me and shut off all points of communication. However, I emailed and called them constantly until one day my mother finally responded. Since then, I have been contacting them regularly to try and soften things with us and tighten the family ties. I love them more than anything and desperately want them to be apart of my wedding.
When I got engaged, things were very tense and I never got a single congratulations. They instead think I am throwing my life away instead of being "successful" as they wanted when I was choosing what to do in college.
I want them to know that I want them to be a part of my wedding. I want my mom to help plan, because I know that she wants to and her beliefs are stopping her.
Do any of you have any ideas of how I can talk to them and show them how much I really do love them and want them to be apart of this big event with me.

I am already aware that they can say no and I will have to live with that. I have come to conclusions that if that is the case, I will still go on because I will marry the man I love no matter what! But I still want to be able to approach this sitiuation as wisely as possible.

Re: How can I get my estranged parents involved in my wedding?

  • Why don't you take your mom to lunch and tell her how much you want her to be a part of this and then, based on how she reacts, go from there?
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • You need to sit down with them (or maybe just one at a time) and tell them how you feel about everything. Tell them that their support is very important to you and that you really want them to be a part of your life and an integral part of your wedding day. 

    I'm sorry this has been such a struggle for you :(
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