I have 2 Moh's, and 2 Bm's. I need help. My MaidOH has been extremely difficult with dresses. She is a BBW, and the other 3 are all between 120-140 and no taller than 5'6". No matter what dress I choose, she shoots it down, saying she's gonna look like a cow. My dress is a chiffon mermaid, with the cascading skirt/train. She keeps choosing big poofy satin ballgowns. She's never been self concious like this, and the dress I've chosen comes in 2 lengths, but she's complaining about the other girls being skinny, and how if that's the dress I choose, she'll have to stand down. Without even trying it on. It's technically a cocktail dress(knee length) through DB, that also comes in a long version(classified as a MOB/MOG gown). The other girls like it, and the 2 lengths give them the option of whichever they wish. It's not a tight dress, but it is chiffon. She swears it's gonna hug her, etc etc.
We've had issues in the past, and my wedding will be the 3rd she's in this year. The dress she chose, is, I kid you not, a cupcake looking dress, that is the third most expensive dress DB has to offer for BM's. I'm trying to ease the budget here, as I'd already planned to contribute if a girl needed me to.
What do I do? Some people say cut her, including my mom and FH. They feel she wants to bow out, but if she does so, that she'll be asked why, and the answer "I didn't like the dress", won't be a good answer. But that if I fire her, she can essentially say "Oh, Cheetah changed her mind", or whatever. Plus, I don't want them in big ballgowns, or even satin. Nothing in our wedding is satin, not even my table linens.
There's more, but I feel like I've taken up enough of your time/space. Thanks ladies.