Groom in All Black

ladydep

My fiance and I went tux shopping the other day and he picked out a very sharp looking tux that we both love.  The only hesitation I have about it is that he wants a black shirt and tie and vest to go with his black tux.  Is that too dark?  My dress is ivory and our wedding colors are ivory and gem/emerald.  Will he look like he's in mourning if he's in all black? (he jokes that he is, mourning his bachelorhood)

ladydep

What about the black shirt but an ivory tie?  Is that still too dark?

bunni727

I had lots of guys at my prom with the black shirt/ivory tie deal. I think all black, but with a white shirt would look much better.

That said, I would just let him know that you have these hesitations, then leave it up to him to choose his own clothes.

JoanE2012

Keep the black vest and tie but go with a white shirt. 

itzMS

It's not my style.

It kind of reminds me of the mobster/gangster costumey look.

If you're wearing a classic dress, he should match you in classic menswear styling.

JoeAnne2013

Did you FI help you choose your gown? If so, then express how you feel about his choice.

If you had free reign to choose what you would like to wear on your wedding day, then give him the same respect and let him wear all black if he wants.

emeejeeayen

Oh gawd

JoeAnne2013

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[QUOTE]All-black doesn't look classy.  He will fade into the background<strong>,</strong> too, if you have a candlelit ceremony,<strong> <--Comma here is not necessary and the entire sentence is phrased incorrectly. </strong> or the lighting at your reception is dim. P.S.  The cliche is free REIN, not reign.  I'm sorry, but I've seen this all day<strong>, <--Or here. </strong>and can't stand it anymore.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

ladydep

I'm hoping seeing his groomsman in a black tux, ivory shirt, and green tie will really show him how dark his colors are.

And to JoeAnne2013, my fiance didn't want to see my dress choice so he didn't get much of a say (only that it doesn't make me look like a feather duster).  On that note, I do want him to take ownership of his outfit for the day, but he has a very 1940's mob style (he originally wanted pinstripes for his formalwear) and I told him no on that.  We are going to look at ourselves in 30 years and I want us to love how we look now AND then.

I'm glad I asked my question as I'm so very unused to male fashion traditions!

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>I'm hoping seeing his groomsman in a black tux, ivory shirt, and green tie will really show him how dark his colors are</strong>. And to JoeAnne2013 , my fiance didn't want to see my dress choice so he didn't get much of a say (only that it doesn't make me look like a feather duster).  On that note, I do want him to take ownership of his outfit for the day, but he has a very 1940's mob style (he originally wanted pinstripes for his formalwear) and I told him no on that.  We are going to look at ourselves in 30 years and I want us to love how we look now AND then. I'm glad I asked my question as I'm so very unused to male fashion traditions!
Posted by ladydep[/QUOTE]

Ehhh, I really think groomsman and grooms should be in white shirts, not ivory.  Ivory shirts look very dingy.  This is NOT the case for ivory wedding dresses, however.  Most women look better in ivory dresses and the shade of ivory is often unrecognizable as ivory.

And to everyone who says let the groom pick his own attire, I generally disagree.  There are many men out there that are not as fashion aware as the women in their lives.  Having a woman's opinion or guidance can greatly help, especially when it's going to be one of the most important and photographed days of their lives.  And further, many men don't care what they wear as long as they look good and are comfortable. :D

cwaggoner07

I just think it looks weird. I agree with PP overall that it doesn't suit the mood, but overall it's just strange looking to not break up the color.

firsttimersluck

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[QUOTE]I had lots of guys<strong><u> at my prom</u></strong> with the black shirt/ivory tie deal. I think all black, but with a white shirt would look much better. That said, I would just let him know that you have these hesitations, then leave it up to him to choose his own clothes.
Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]

<div>yeeeeaaaaaahh... </div><div>That's kinda the point. </div><div>OP, do you want your Fi to look like you're going to prom? </div><div>hmmm</div>

Spunky414

I don't think it's a good look. 2 of my friends did that for prom, one is a pale white guy and he looks dead in the pictures and the other is a darker African guy and it all blended together. It's very dated to me.