Bridesmaid Dress trouble with Fiancé!

ndrox1616

So this has been going on for a few months now and now that we are finally getting down to deciding on a bridesmaid dress, my Fiancé  disagrees with everything!  All our bridesmaids are going to be wearing the same style, color, and length, except for my MOH. She will wear a diff style but still the same color and length.  He is fine with the MOH wearing a different style. The problem is that I told my Bridesmaids that they have the option to have straps put on for more comfort (since they are strapless dresses).  He said that it will look completely ridiculous if they are all wearing "different dresses".  I want my bridesmaids to feel as comfortable as possible.

I personally don't think it will look much different with the straps. They aren't THAT noticeable...they are spaghetti straps. 

I did not think that HE would be this concerned about how the bridesmaid dresses look! Lol  I do understand that he wants to be involved in the planning process but this is making it harder to decide!!

What do i do?!? 

*Lauren*

bethsmiles

Show him pictures of bridesmaids that have different dresses or similar to what you are thinking and then continue to try to explain to him that its important that your BMs feel comfortable in the dresses they are wearing and that they are paying for. I'm sure he will come around.

amazonx42

You tell him that celebrity wedding planner David Tutera uses different styles in the same color all the time.  That is what I am going to do -my bridesmaids are gonna get a color and Im going to let them pick any tea-length dress they want!  Not all women look good in the same style dress.  Find a pic if you have to.  Tell fiance he doesn't know what he is talking about.  You can even find pictures of this in bridal magazines.  Yeesh - that's a weird thing for him to be a control freak about.

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I agree. It will look fine. Tell him he doesn't get to pick the BM's dresses just like you aren't picking out his tux.

kayakrunhike

Let him know this is simply not something he has an option in- the general rule of thumb is that the guy picks out the tuxes and the girl picks out the BM dresses.  I applaud you for wanting your BMs to be comfortable, as I have a large chest, and the boning in the strapless bM dresses tends to not be enough support for me.  (I say this from experience, lol). 

I have PIB from my wedding, and my girls wore completely different style dresses.  It really doesn't look bad, and no one will notice if a few of your girls have straps- if they even want them.  Another option would be to have them wear the dress strapless for the ceremony, and then use the straps after pictures if they so choose.  They can always just tuck them under the dress.  I would also see if you can search some pics on google or something- generally it is jr BMs that wear straps when the older BMs wear strapless, but it could give him an idea of how it really isn't even noticeable.

kimp67

I agree with the other posters, my "girls" will all have different styles in the same color.  I've looked at a lot of wedding pics on here & I think they look really nice!

kristinanddan

Our 4 girls wore 3 different dresses:

aerinpegadrak

I think you tell him that you love that he wants your wedding to look fabulous and appreciate that he's willing to share his opinion, but that this particular issue really isn't his call.  Definitely show him some pictures of mismatched bridal parties.  Hell, even the almighty Wedding-Industrial Complex says that this is perfectly fine:  http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/bridesmaids/qa/do-bridesmaid-dresses-have-to-match.aspx

ndrox1616

Thanks everyone for your input!! 

To what kayakrunhike said: I thought of that same option of having them tuck in their straps for the ceremony and photos and then they can put the straps on for the reception.  I think its a great idea!  All but two of my BM's have larger chests so this is most of my concern for their comfort.

mikeandniki

If it were me I would just tell him that having "mismatched" dresses is better than your girls having to constantly pull their dresses up because of the lack of straps, as some bustier girls have trouble with strapless dresses.  Good luck!