Should the fabric of the bridesmaid dresses be the same as my bridal gown?

randikins

I have this amazingly beautiful all chiffon bridal gown from Allure. So I think the bridesmaid dresses need to be chiffon as well. I have one bridesmaid continuously tell me that I need to look at other fabrics, because I won't get a vibrant color from a chiffon, (I've been looking at Alfred Angelo bridesmaid dresses in Pool and Pistachio, which I've seen chiffon swatches of and I like them). However I think she's rooting for a different fabric because she's mentioned before how much she doesn't like chiffon.
I'm letting this get to me more than it probably should because I really want to make sure my bridesmaids are happy and comfortable in what they wear. However, I'm afraid if I let them wear a different fabric other than chiffon I'm going to feel upstaged.
Any help would be incredibly appreciated!!!!

jagore08

I think other fabrics would look fine with your dress.  Why not go to AA (or DB) and put get a chiffon wedding gown and pair it with the BM dresses in the store.  I think when you look at it all together it will look fine to you. 

ellen73

My dress is chiffon, and only my maid of honor has a chiffon dress.   The rest of the girls either have silk or cotton,  and the junior bridesmaid's dress has chiffon flowers on it.   I don't think the fabrics matter that much.   

opalsky007

The fabrics don't need to be the same. Go with whatever you want! Chiffon would look lovely, but I agree with your bridesmaid that other fabrics are often eassier to rewear.

mbcdefg

Nobody is going to notice or care. Who on earth would go to a wedding and inspect all the dress fabrics to be sure they match?

[Deleted User]

They don't have to be the same.

AshleyCave

You can make your own rules for what fabrics you want the bridemaids to wear. These days nothing has to matchy-matchy, so it's very common for bridesmaids to have different fabric dresses. My bridesmaids are all picking their own dresses of the same color, in whatever fabrics they like, so I know they will be happy with it. You're the bride, so nobody in the bridal party will be able to upstage you no matter what kind of fabric they wear.

If chiffon is what you want them to wear, then by all means go for it!

alehayes

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[QUOTE]You can make your own rules for what fabrics you want the bridemaids to wear. These days nothing has to matchy-matchy, so it's very common for bridesmaids to have different fabric dresses. My bridesmaids are all picking their own dresses of the same color, in whatever fabrics they like, so I know they will be happy with it. <strong>You're the bride, so nobody in the bridal party will be able to upstage you no matter what kind of fabric they wear.</strong> If chiffon is what you want them to wear, then by all means go for it!
Posted by AshleyCave[/QUOTE]

Exactly!  The guests will be at the wedding to celebrate your marriage, not to critique everyone's outfits.  Trust me, Joan Rivers isn't going to be lurking around the back row taking notes on who won Best-Dressed of the night.  Few (if any) of your guests will be paying attention to the fabric of the dresses, let alone comparing the fabric of your dress to your WP's dresses.

If you really want everyone in chiffon, that's your prerogative.  But I personally think if you just want it that way out of fear of being upstaged, that you need to just let your BMs pick their own dress fabric.  After all, at the end of the day, isn't it more important for your WP (who are obviously people you care about) to be happy, than to be resentful of you for being insecure? (Not saying that's actually how they would feel, but I know a lot of girls who have been resentful over the bride telling them exactly what they're going to wear and how they're going to look, so it's definitely a possibility).

stacy&tige

2 of my bridesmaids are wearing satin dresses and the other 2 are wearing chiffon (purely their choice on dress style) because that was what they liked. My dress is taffeta. I doubt anyone will notice. But I do agree that some colors are better in satin...but I would just pick whatever you like. If you want chiffon, thats your choice.

ashleyamberRN

I think it would almost be better to have different fabrics. I wanted my bridesmaids to NOT match me so I will stand out. My dress is strapless and I didnt even want the girls getting strapless dresses so they wouldnt look like me (ofcoarse I stil picked strapless cause I love there dress) But its all in what you want. If you like the chiffon swatches and your gut keeps telling you to pick that then go with your gut!

divine_chaos

My gown is strapless silk charmeuse<sp> and my bridesmaids are wearing a flowing one shoulder jersey material with a charmeuse bodice and strap. Not intended or planned just worked out that way but I feel you can pick whatever make you happy and makes your day special.

loritajean

Do whatever you want! If you want the bridesmaids to wear something specific, it's your wedding, so you can choose.

It's also a good idea sometimes to just give them a color swatch and tell them to get whatever they want. This is a great way to prevent them from complaining (since it sounds like you already have 1 whiner on your hands hahaha). That way everyone also feels a lot more comfortable

cqbride

When I got married, I was more interested in sharing the moment with my husband than worrying whether everyone was wholly focused on me. I know that everyone's priorities are different, but I don't really see why being "upstaged" by a fabric is a concern for you.

ashleyamberRN

are your bridesmaids dresses from davids bridal? the one your decribing sounds like the one for my MOH and for the bridesmaids i got the same one but without the one shoulder strap.

randikins

I'm going to explore my options with other fabrics, but still keeping the chiffon in mind, and checking out styles not like my own ( I have a one shoulder gown). I've always been under the impression the BM dresses need to compliment the bridal gown. 
 I'm a bride under stress, with a BM who critiques most of my decisions, this one being for the sole reason she doesn't want to wear chiffon. It can be difficult finding the happy balance of keeping myself and the BM's happy while also making sure the pictures will look nice. I overthink things, I know. lol
Thanks for the opinions!