Suit -vs- Tux

sickvanimal

I am getting married in August and am having, for the  most part, a very traditional wedding.  I am wearing a long traditional off-white gown and the bridesmaids are wearing long chiffon flowy hunter green dresses.  We are getting married in a church and our reception is in a ballroom.  My question is...should the groom and groomsmen wear a khaki colored suit with an ivory shirt and tie or should they wear black tuxes? 

Thank you! 

sickvanimal

A photo-shopped visual! 

ElisabethJoanne

What time of day is your wedding? Tuxes are only appropriate in the evening.

sickvanimal

Our ceremony is at 2 p.m., but our reception starts at 5:30 p.m. 

ElisabethJoanne

Then tuxes are not appropriate for the ceremony. You should go with the suits.

Lisa50

If you are wearing a floor-length dress (it doesn't matter if it's a traditional gown or an evening gown), I'd suggest a tux for the groom.

Peavy

Tuxes are only for evening.  If you like the look of the black better than the khaki, then the men could wear black suits for a daytime wedding.

sickvanimal

I'm not necessarily looking for the whole bow-tie look.  But tux blazer and pants with a ivory shirt and ivory tie.  

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]I'm not necessarily looking for the whole bow-tie look.  But tux blazer and pants with a ivory shirt and ivory tie.  
Posted by sickvanimal[/QUOTE]

I think what you have in mind will be fine. We got married at 1:30Pm and my men wore tuxes with long ties and white shirts. I think some people are kind of stuck on the whole "oh my god you cant possibly do that". Plenty of people do it and they dont burst into flames.

MrsKathyC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Suit -vs- Tux : I think what you have in mind will be fine. We got married at 1:30Pm and my men wore tuxes with long ties and white shirts. I think some people are kind of stuck on the whole "oh my god you cant possibly do that". Plenty of people do it and they dont burst into flames.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

THIS!!!!!

Our ceremony was at 12:30 and men also wore tuxes with long ties, vests, etc.  Strangely enough, no one burst into flames at our wedding either!

Do what YOU think will look best!

MrsKathyC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Suit -vs- Tux : People may not tell you to your face, but they will laugh behind your back.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

Seriously???  What kind of friends do you have??

sickvanimal

None of my friends will laugh behind my back. We will be buying our tuxes if necessary and we will buy pants with belt loops. Sorry won't be renting prom tuxes so RELAX!

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Suit -vs- Tux : People may not tell you to your face, but they will laugh behind your back.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

Believe me not one person said a thing about my husband in a tux other than how handsome he was. If THIS is something people would say at your wedding they are classless. And this "etiquette" rule is so dated most people dont follow it anyway.

theholograms

Okay, I'm not an expert on weddings BUT I have been to about 25 weddings. I think you can go with either one to be honest with you. My fiance is wearing a dark suit because he likes the look better. Our ceremony is at 6 with reception to immediately follow. I'm fine with it, and I'm sure everyone else will be too. (And my dress is traditional, long, and the BM have long dresses as well.)

As for the people saying a tux can only be worn in the evening, or that people will laugh behind your back if they are wearing a tux - I guess it depends on your group of friends but in all the weddings I've been to I have never seen people say a word about it. For many of the weddings, the ceremony was earlier if it was a church ceremony and therefore not technically evening. But in more cases than not, the groom and groomsmen wore a tux. 

Do whatever you guys feel is best, but the time of day really shouldn't influence your decision imo. 

retaviato

You should know that the difference between a tux and a suit is the satin trim, the satin lapel and satin buttons. That's it. If you want to give a tux a suit-like appearance, just add a long tie with no vest and a plain (no pleats) shirt.

The time of day is insignificant, as contemporary weddings nowadays do  not conform to the norms of yesteryear.

I say "Wear a Tux" as described above. It will be beautiful and it will be your own choices! There's a wonderful symbolism in making choices for yourself for your wedding.  Anyone who would look down on your choices isn't showing proper respect for you or the blessed event!

mbody

I loooove tan suits!!! But, I'm way biased, because that's what my FI and his GM will be wearing. And, personally, I like the tan color next to the green over the black and green.

Eliz77

I'm getting married at 11am and the guys are wearing gray tuxs: 

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I've been to three daytime weddings where the guys all wore black tuxs and never heard a negative word. 

I think it;s ironic how this board is full with the advice,"It's YOUR wedding! Do what YOU want!" yet will lambast you for wanting the guys in tuxs for daytime weddings. SO, I say, if you want your guys in brown tuxs, go for it! I think it looks better than black tuxs for daytime, and with those dresses as well. I left it up to FI if he wanted tuxs or suits and he chose tuxs because, as he put it,"When else will we get the chance to get all dressed up?"

Eliz77

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[QUOTE]  On the other hand, if I give advice, you can be sure that your Aunt Elsie won't object.  Trendy - nope!
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
Luckily I don't have am Aunt Elsie! Even my 90 year old Grandfather insists on wearing his tux to my afternoon wedding. Lucky for him, our family is very supportive and polite so no one will criticize or laugh at him for his attire choice!<div>
</div><div>I get that it may not be kosher to wear tux in the afternoon. However, I also get we only get one wedding and if FI, our fathers and my grandfather would like to wear tuxs, the absolute last think I am concerned about is what someone's Aunt Elsie is thinking. I can't imagine formal wear of any sort is ideal for a summer afternoon wedding, but I'm still wearing a wedding gown and my BMs are still in formal dresses. The fashion police won't be there! </div>

TheDoctor10

OP, to answer your initial question: I would advise against tuxedos for your daytime/afternoon wedding.

A lounge (aka "business") suit is more appropriate for daytime wear than a tuxedo. The tuxedo is considered evening wear for gentlemen.

In particular, the tan suits you're considering would look especially nice given your color scheme and the time of year.

If you are set on tuxedos, please at least consult the link in my sig to learn how they should be properly worn. I can assure you that an improperly worn tuxedo, no matter the time of day, severely detracts from its formality and can make even the most handsome gent look sloppy or even like the waitstaff.