Hi everyone - thanks for reading my post.
I'm in the middle of an uncomfortable situation...the groom and groomsmen will all be wearing tuxes for the wedding. Now we're trying to figure out how to handle the fathers since tux rentals are so ridiculously expensive. Here's the soap opera:
My dad is paying almost 100% for a pricey wedding and reception, well above what I'd have ever asked for. He assures me that it's the biggest party they'll ever throw so I shouldn't feel bad about his contributions.
My fiance's family comes from a small town and doesn't have much money. His parents are divorced, which further complicates things...I'd always figured we'd have all three dads in tuxes, but now we're re-thinking.
Should the dads wear tuxes? My fiance's dad would prefer to just buy a black suit for that price so he could use it again. My fiance's step-dad is suffering from cancer and may not come, but of course his wife (my fiance's mom) will be all decked out in a mother-of-the-groom dress. My mom will also be decked out of course, so my dad would be in a suit as well.
I'm at a loss...I guess I wonder if it's a slap in the face to my dad if I'd ask him to do a black suit instead of a tux since he's truly the one throwing the party. I also don't want to alienate my new family members by asking them to throw away what little money they have on a tux rental, yet I want the mothers to match their husbands in terms of level of formality.
Sorry for the novel...but....help!