engagement rings

emilymotley

My boyfriend and I are ready to get married and start living our dreams together.  He wants to buy me a ring but neither of us have a clue where to begin.  We're thinking we don't want a new diamond.  My mother has a diamond she will be giving to me ........sometime.  My boyfriend and I have talked about working with a designer and using the diamond my mother has.  My mother and I have discussed this but I don't know the proper way to ask for the diamond.  Should I ask?  Should my boyfriend ask?

My roommate used to work for a jewelry store in New York called The Clay Pot.  She has introduced us to several designers that use ethically mined, raw, uncut diamonds in beautiful original designs.  However, none of the stores in Texas carry that designers bridal collection.  It's getting to the point that we're going to go to NY just to try the designers bridal collection on.

Is there anywhere in Austin that sells engagement rings by original designers?

Help!!

jeanieg

have you googled the designers from your friend's store? and does the store still carry those designers? i'm sure you've seen their website...http://www.clay-pot.com/

kudos, btw, for making an ethical choice regarding your ring

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Ditto on the permission thing. If FI has "asked" my parents I would have been pissed.

A way I got around the ethical diamond thing was by buying a vintage ring. If you like the look of antique-y rings, see if there are estate jewelers in Austin (I'm sure there are). The ring I got is from the 1930s. So... it's like it's being recycled!

I know others who have taken their mother's diamonds and had a CZ put in the original setting as a way of passing the stone on, but not the setting. Good luck!

lacebride

Actually, most diamonds you buy aren't newly mined diamonds. There is no way of knowing. They could be 'second hand'....

RaiKai

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_engagement-rings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:55354415-5e74-494d-a2a3-c38df4b1cd12Post:33e9789b-dbdc-4171-8e88-24c29a48e6bd">Re: engagement rings</a>:
[QUOTE] at the same time he might want to ask permission of your parents to marry, it's old school but still very recommended and the proper thing to do.......
Posted by psichick[/QUOTE]

Recommended and proper according to who?

That would not have flown with me. at all. I am thirty years old and have been on my own for a long time - I don't need any of my parents to give a partner their "permission" for them to marry me. That would of been, for our family, my FI and I, incredibly awkward and strange. Not because my family does not love FI, or do not approve, but because that is simply incredibly dated, not realistic and not reflective of who I am, who FI is, or our relationship to our families.

FI and I mutually decided to get married, and then we let our families know that we were engaged. They were delighted, and certainly did not feel they should of been "asked for permission".

cellarius

yeah i agree with most ppl on bf asking permission very dated & not the norm anymore. now it's more of an announcement lol that would be so weird if my bf did that. i date who i want & i'll marry who i want. obviously it would be better if they like him but if not who cares? they're not deciding anything. i would just be like i'm going to ask __ to marry me i'm wondering ideas on how to propose & that could open up the diamond topic easily