Did i choose the right dress?!?!?

rks421

Im having second thoughts about the dress i just put a deposit on. I tried on 2 dresses on Monday, both similiar except for the bodice. One is roushing and the other is beaded. I initially picked the beaded one but decided to sleep on it and came back 5 days later to retry the beaded one on. After i put the deposit down on the dress, i was driving home and realized the dress was missing something that it didnt have before. I compared the first pictures with the ones we had just took and it was the roushing one that i actually put the deposit down on.
I drove back to the bridal salon, told them the sitiuation, and the consultant who helped me realized it was her faut. The dresses looked so similiar that she got confused herself. 
So i retried both of them on, cried for 15 mins because i was so confused. I fell in love with the first dress and pushed the other one aside, but then fell in love with the one i pushed aside and i couldnt decide which one i liked better. I mean, i didnt even realize the the dress was different until i compared pics. I also still had that feeling like this is my dress. 
So i kep with the dress that i put the deposit down on, the one with the roushing on top. But im having second thoughts. Maybe i shouldve picked the first one. But the second dress that i put the deposit down on is so beautiful and i didnt even realize it was the wrong dress! Should i be feeling this way? I mean, i dont HATE the dress or dislike it, i love it. But im just confused as to why i didnt fall in love with this one first to begin with. Please help me. Thanks 

mabapunta

I had a similar experience with having to choose between 2 dresses I really liked, although my decision was spread out over a longer period of time. I finally decided on a ballgown one because although it wasn't the Disney princess vibe I originally thought I would ever go for...I realized I really do want to feel a princess on my wedding day! It was the dress that was the most fun and had the bigger wow factor.

Do you have pictures of both? You explained they look very similar, enough to be mistaken for each other. It might be easier to give specific ideas if we can compare the styles.

Have they already placed the order for you? If not, how much time do you have before they do? Maybe you still have time to change your mind and feel confident in your choice. If so, is there something you could add to the dress you chose to make it even better than the other - like a belt, a broach, or even a great necklace accessory or something? Or it may be that you'll feel totally certain about it once it comes in and is altered and fits you perfectly!!

What kind of vibe are you wanting for your wedding? Which one matches it better? Or what do you think it might need to add the full effect that you're going for?

rks421

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[QUOTE]I had a similar experience with having to choose between 2 dresses I really liked, although my decision was spread out over a longer period of time. I finally decided on a ballgown one because although it wasn't the Disney princess vibe I originally thought I would ever go for...I realized I really do want to feel a princess on my wedding day! It was the dress that was the most fun and had the bigger wow factor. Do you have pictures of both? You explained they look very similar, enough to be mistaken for each other. It might be easier to give specific ideas if we can compare the styles. Have they already placed the order for you? If not, how much time do you have before they do? Maybe you still have time to change your mind and feel confident in your choice. If so, is there something you could add to the dress you chose to make it even better than the other - like a belt, a broach, or even a great necklace accessory or something? Or it may be that you'll feel totally certain about it once it comes in and is altered and fits you perfectly!! What kind of vibe are you wanting for your wedding? Which one matches it better? Or what do you think it might need to add the full effect that you're going for?
Posted by mabapunta[/QUOTE]

Im glad you felt teh same way i do. I too wasnt looking for the roushing, but when i tried it on, i actually liked it. On other dresses it looked all bunched up, but on this one, it was the rhinestones around it which does give it a wow factor. They order was already set out.
But you are right. Maybe when the dress comes in, and i have a necklace or headpiece picked out, im sure the whole dress will come together.
My theme is vintage country glam. The venue and reception will be at a barn 35 mins from my home. The original dress was all lace with a  little bling (i loved the lace more because its more vintage). The dresss i put the deposit on is all lace (but with less detail than the other one) but more bling (a btter wow factor.) Im just concerned that i picked a dress which was a little different than what i had in mind. When the other dress had everything i was looking for, but didnt have the wow factor like this one
The following are the pics. The first three is the one i put the deposit on. The dress with the roushing that i intially didnt like, but then fell in love with.
<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/12/9/8c721a9b-331c-4d73-b949-4f21aec3d14b.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/12/9/8c721a9b-331c-4d73-b949-4f21aec3d14b.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>
<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/4/6/d4f47a93-0694-48f9-9647-8c016352f8cf.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/4/6/d4f47a93-0694-48f9-9647-8c016352f8cf.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>

<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/8/1/383ac87a-fe19-40d8-a1a2-602465578296.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/8/1/383ac87a-fe19-40d8-a1a2-602465578296.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>
The next two pics is the original dress i was suppose to buy. 

<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/12/2/5cabac1a-a24b-4057-82fd-de8832a8ba76.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/12/2/5cabac1a-a24b-4057-82fd-de8832a8ba76.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>

<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/3/6/f322d4fb-068b-4501-b637-c0fb9eb9e6a5.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/3/6/f322d4fb-068b-4501-b637-c0fb9eb9e6a5.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>



I love the train more on the original dress, its more lacey. But i feel like with the dress that i actually bought, the bling in the front makes up for the less lace on the back. Its more of a wow factor

acaponi87

I love the dress you put the deposit down. It's gorgeous. Stop thinking about it or you are going to drive yourself crazy in the upcoming months.

rks421

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[QUOTE]I love the dress you put the deposit down. It's gorgeous. Stop thinking about it or you are going to drive yourself crazy in the upcoming months.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

Oh my. Thank you so much for reassuring me. Youre right, no reason to go crazy over. The dress is gorgeous. I see that everytime i look at the pics and read the responses <3 Thanks again. It helps when the pros give me advice too ;)

PattySmith101

i love the first one too!!! they are very similar ! stop doubting!

PJSPJS

I agree with PPs. They're both beautiful, but the one you put the deposit on is nicer (and a bit more distinctive).

EK2013

I am CRAZY about the one you put the deposit down on. They're both beautiful dresses, but I think the one you're getting photographs particularly beautifully!

noahark1

another vote for the one you put the deposit on  

rks421

All of you guys are so amazing. Each time i read your posts, i start to feel a million times better about my decision. Im now so excited to go back and try it on when it comes in. Im getting teary-eyed just thinking about it and how much you have helped me. Thank you so much for reassuring me!! You have helped me out sooo much!!! I cannot thank you guys enough!!!!

Mtess1

I love the beading on your dress!!

rks421

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[QUOTE]I love the beading on your dress!!
Posted by Mtess1[/QUOTE]

Thank You!!!! Your ring is beautiful too!!

rks421

 Thank you soo much!! Your ring is beautiful too Mtess1

Alisha9544

Agreed I love the first one!  I also think that the upward detailing is much more figure flattering.  You're going to look beautiful!

mabapunta

Yes, definitely keep that first one! It is freaking gorgeous on you and much more distinctive! If you really want to incorporate lace somewhere, maybe you could find a veil to pull together your country vintage look? Even your hairstyle could bring it together, I bet!