Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry?

ali585

Should I ask my bridesmaids to wear the same type of jewelry? (I don't mean everyone wearing the exact same pieces, I just mean them all wearing silver jewelry only, etc.)

All my bridesmaids are wearing the same dress, so I'm actually wondering if I should just let them wear whatever jewelry they'd like with the dress so everyone stands out a bit. Or should their jewelry coordinate? What do you think looks better?

My wedding colors are blue and green with touches of silver. The bridesmaid dresses are royal blue. My wedding is semi-formal, with an outdoor summer ceremony followed by an indoor evening reception.

Any thoughts? Thanks in advance!

KrystalsKitsch

If you want them to wear the same kind of jewelry, you can always give it to them as part of their gift.

JoeAnne2013

Nothing wrong with asking if they would mind wearing a specific color.

misssunshine17

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[QUOTE]<strong>If you want them to wear the same kind of jewelry, you can always give it to them as part of their gift.</strong>
Posted by KrystalsKitsch[/QUOTE]

<div>This is not a gift, if you expect them to wear it on your wedding day. </div><div>
</div><div>I think it's a little over the top to specify jewelry. Do you really think they're going to wear some big red necklace or something? For example, my engagement ring in white gold and I wear an heirloom ring on my right hand that is yellow gold. I would be pissed if you asked me to take one or the other off. Let it go. </div>

jagore08

All of my BM wore different jewelry (gold, white gold/silver, pearls) and it looked fine together.  I think having them too matchy-matchy looks weird. 

molly&dale

It's probably not a huge deal either way. I've been a bm who the bride gave jewelry to for the wedding day, and I never wore it again. Just wasn't my style. I would much rather have been able to choose for myself. Also, silver doesn't look good on everyone. Just keep that in mind.

QueerFemme

Anytime you give them jewelry to wear on the wedding day... its not a gift. Its part of their required wardrobe.   Don't count that as part of their BM gifts.

With that said... I don't think their jewelry is a big deal.  I think letting them wear what they want is best.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry? :<strong> This is not a gift</strong>, if you expect them to wear it on your wedding day.  I think it's a little over the top to specify jewelry. Do you really think they're going to wear some big red necklace or something? For example, my engagement ring in white gold and I wear an heirloom ring on my right hand that is yellow gold. I would be pissed if you asked me to take one or the other off. Let it go. 
Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

This is one of the TK party lines that annoys me. It's still a gift! You are giving them something as a gesture. If she was loaning it to them to wear for the day, then it wouldn't be a gift. And PP did say as *part* of their gift. It would be totally fine to give them a necklace along with something else.

misssunshine17

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry? : This is one of the TK party lines that annoys me. It's still a gift! You are giving them something as a gesture. If she was loaning it to them to wear for the day, then it wouldn't be a gift. And PP did say as *part* of their gift. It would be totally fine to give them a necklace along with something else.
Posted by lissadelsol[/QUOTE]

<div>It's not a gift if its purpose is for the wedding and because the bride wants her pictures to be 'perfect'.' It's not with intention of the bridesmaid liking it. It's to match a dress and make the girls look the same. Not a gift. </div>

achiduck

I'm going to tell my girls to wear whatever jewellery they want provided it's clear/rhinestone and silver toned. 

kushie77

my girls worked with a local jeweler to have custom bracelets made, they designed them, I paid for them.  I consider that their gift.  If they wear them to the wedding fine, if not- fine. 

lilbitbeaker

I make jewelry so after I told my sister that she could wear whatever she wanted jewelrywise her reaction was 'no! I want you to make me mine!'
so Im making all my girls jewelry LOL

its all up to you 
either way (letting them wear whatever, buying them matching, specifying a color, etc) its all acceptable.

SarahAlRamadhan

Unless you have a specific type of look you want to portray I don't think it matters if you let them pick out their own jewelry or not so long as you trust their decisions. I know with myself and my bridemsaids that I would like to have some direction from the bride because I wouldn't know what to wear.

Maggie0829

My girls wore the same dress.  As for jewlery they wore what they wanted.  My MOH wore a pearl/silver necklace with a silver bracelet and pearl earrings, while my other BM wore silver and green gem jewelry.  The only reason I even remember this is because my MOH borrowed my necklace and my other BM showed me the jewlery she bought before my wedding day.  If neither of them mentioned jewelry I would never have even noticed what they were wearing.

IMO, jewelry is not a thing to stress over or even care about.  I think that since the girls are wearing matching dresses it is nice to allow them to show some of their personality through jewelry.  Not all girls like the same jewelry (some like silver, some like gold, some like big pieces, others like small pieces, etc) so why force them to buy something that they would most likely never wear again.

Also, giving BMs jewelry as a "gift" and then making them wear it on the wedding day is not a gift, it is now considered part of their wedding attire.

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry? : This is one of the TK party lines that annoys me. It's still a gift! <strong>You are giving them something as a gesture</strong>. If she was loaning it to them to wear for the day, then it wouldn't be a gift. And PP did say as *part* of their gift. It would be totally fine to give them a necklace along with something else.
Posted by lissadelsol[/QUOTE]

No you're not.  You're giving it to them with the stipulation that it must be worn in the wedding.  Gifts do not come with strings attached.

SarahAlRamadhan

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry? : It's not a gift if its purpose is for the wedding and because the bride wants her pictures to be 'perfect'.' It's not with intention of the bridesmaid liking it. It's to match a dress and make the girls look the same. Not a gift. 
Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

Are you even a bride?

SarahAlRamadhan

I've never heard of this "rule" in any of my etiquette books that jewelry is an unacceptable gift to receive as a bridesmaid. I have NEVER heard anywhere that you should gift your bridesmaids like it's their birthday. I guess I should tell my fiance that the cuff links he gave his groomsmen aren't a gift! LOL

Get over yourself!

ali585

Thanks for the feedback ladies. When it comes down to it, I don't really care which jewelry they wear. I trust all of their tastes so I'll just tell them to wear whatever they want.

SarahAlRamadhan

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry? : In Response to Re: Asking bridesmaids to match jewelry? : You seem to be taking these jewelry threads very personally.  Tone it down.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

The same could be said of the other ladies!

misssunshine17

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[QUOTE]I've never heard of this "rule" in any of my etiquette books that jewelry is an unacceptable gift to receive as a bridesmaid. I have NEVER heard anywhere that you should gift your bridesmaids like it's their birthday. I guess I should tell my fiance that the cuff links he gave his groomsmen aren't a gift! LOL Get over yourself!
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

<div>Woah, girl. It's just jewelry. Buying like it's their birthday if a popular opinion on the boards. I suggest lurking around a bit more and you'll see it. </div>

DreamCLG7

i'm with lisa and that other poster. It annoys the crap out of me when people on TK say wedding day jewelry isn't a gift. uhh, ok? of course it's a gift. are you high?   the only way it  would not be a gift would be if I made them give it back to me at the end of the wedding.

so strange...