Dress Remorse ALREADY!

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Is it normal to have it so soon?  I put the downpayment on my dress less than 6 hours ago!  I came home, uploaded the pictures to send to my mom (she can't come with me to look) and saw the pictures from the first dress I loved.  Now, I'm thinking I should have bought the first dress!  AAHHHHHHHH!  I think it's just because the dress from today doesn't have a train and I LOVE trains, but everything else about it is perfect.

ceh789

Buyers remorse is extremely common.

Stop looking at dresses other than the one you bought.  It'll be fine.  Remember how good you felt about the dress when you chose it.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Buyers remorse is extremely common. Stop looking at dresses other than the one you bought.  It'll be fine.  Remember how good you felt about the dress when you chose it.
Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]

This! Thats a lot of money to plunk down one item you will wear for one day.

Just remember there was a reason you bought it and move on to the next thing. Shoes, jewelry....

achiduck

The second I left the store I immediately thought "oh crap, what have I done?" But once I got home and looked at my pictures for a few days I started to feel better and more confident that THAT was my dress. 

I think it's normal to feel that way, it's huge decision. The important part is to remember how it made you feel and to STOP looking at other dresses. 

Nori82

All I can say is, if you really want the other dress and you can get it from the same store, you better do so quickly. Sometimes they don't put the order in that day so you won't lose your deposit ( especially if you're just applying that money to another dress). I can't tell you it's okay and you'll feel better like these other posters ( not saying they are wrong,just that I have no right to agree) because a few weeks ago I was in your place... And changed the dress. Let me tell you, I loved the first dress I bought. I still do, it's fun, flirty, but it just felt off and everyone I showed, I felt as if I was looking for constant reassurance. I had a pic of myself in the other dress ( second choice in the store, but a close second because my mom and MOH didn't seem wowed). Annnyway. I keep looking at the other dress pic and decide I can't live without it. So I called the store a few days after the deposit and they were able to change it. Immediate relief! And I show people the dress now and don't care what they think! No more need for reassurance, because I know I love it. Think long and hard tonight,if you know in your heart it's not right, see what you can do. But be prepared that they may say too late and you live with the dress you have, or forfeit the deposit. Can we see pics of the dress?

ejheart

Wow, this is me, exactly, right now!!!

The first dress that I fell in love with was really more than we wanted to spend (I gave a little wiggle room for the budget in hopes that I could find a used version if it was more than we wanted to spend...BAD idea). Of course, I wasn't able to find a used one and decided to keep searching for a second option.

Today, I found a dress that had everything that I originally wanted, and I mean EVERYTHING. Yet, I'm still having buyer's remorse. I do still love the dress that I bought, I just feel like it doesn't have as much of a wow factor...and thinking back on it I just didn't feel as amazing in it as I did the first one. Is any of that an issue for you? I agree with above poster that you should at least see what your options are.

Unfortunately for me, the store I purchased from doesn't carry the brand of the other dress that I loved...but I know they won't place the order until Monday so maybe I still have a shot. : /

Nori82

The only thing you can do is TRY. For me, I knew I wouldn't be at peace with the decision - no matter if it was dress 1 or dress 2 - unless I knew for sure that the store definitely would not help me. I mean, you're basically breaking a contract and wanting no consequences - who wants to lose money? But maybe they will feel sorry for you. If its not ordered yet, you might be okay. It's Saturday, businesses are open. Call ASAP. And just be very .... Humble? I wouldn't try to strong arm or be demanding. If they know you're really just so unhappy, I know I'd feel bad. If they won't let you out o canceling without losing money, just weigh the option - is the dress you love worth it's price PLUS what you paid on deposit? If its too pricey, try to love the dress, you chose itin the first place and there's always little things that can be done to make you love it more.little alterations go a long way. Good luck!

[Deleted User]

Thanks, ladies!  I'm going to stop looking at the other dress.  I LOVE everything about the dress I bought except it doesn't have a train.  However, the veil is a cathedral length veil and my friends are convincing me it makes up for not having a train!

Nori82

Glad it all worked out! A cathedral length veil is awesome!

ejheart

Aw, good for you! I slept on my buyer's remorse and think that I am good now, too. 

I just keep trying to remember how I felt in the dress, and it reassures me. Yay for us.