Help - Soon to be Sister in laws dress code issue

eaglenightshade

Hi all

I am getting married in November and my soon to be sister in law is getting married in February, she has declared a monochrome theme.

She is wearing ivory and the bridesmaids black.

I have 2 problems

1 what do i wear? I thought it was rule number one that you didn't wear ivory/white and risk upstaging my new sister in law

2, i need to find something fast, by the time the summer is over i will be out of time. My Calender is full October through to December with my own wedding and if i end up having to order something it needs to be done before January.

I am a UK size 14 bottom with a large bust.

Any suggestions greatly appreciated x

LoriAH11

Maybe, I am a bit confused. But is she asking the guests to only wear black or ivory/white? If this is the case then I wouldn't worry about wearing ivory if she has said that is acceptable for guests to wear. I would personally suggest black though. Just try to find a style that is different enough from the bridesmaids. Again though, I might have totally misunderstood.

Belle2Be

I'm confused as well. She expects the guests to be monochromatic? That's weird...

waltzingmatilda13

Pink, hot pink.

Who declares a dress code at their wedding? That's just all kinds of crazy. Obviously wear whatever you want that's ivory or black. Or be a rebel and go with pink.

mbcdefg

If she's micromanaging her guests to the point where she's demanding that they wear certain colors, then she loses her right to complain that you're "upstaging" her by wearing white/ivory, or her BMs by wearing black.

Wear what you want and don't worry about it. You shouldn't have to go nuts looking for an outfit just because she's a control freak. If she flips out about the color you're wearing to her wedding, then that's her problem for being a jerk, not yours.

opalsky007

Yeah, that's kind of obnoxious, wear what you like.

If you do want to fit with the theme without looking too similar to the bride or bridesmaids, you could go with a black and white print--White House Black Market has a lot of great printed dresses, but so do plenty of other stores.

alecat9

A pretty gray or silvery dress would be okay as well, I think.

aerinpegadrak

Screw dress codes.  Wear whatever you want.  I imagine many guests will do the same.