Unnecessary accessories: Boutonnieres

jadino03

I rather not have boutonniere in my wedding. I feel that it does'nt have any practical purpose in weddings and that if you can't see it in wedding photos then why wear it. But, it seems to be a tradition in every wedding. And I've already cut out so many traditions from my wedding that it has my mom spinning on her heals. Should I go with this tradition or do my own thing?

MrsHoward2Be

Do your own thing. I don't think boutonnière are a tradition. Just do pocket squares.

msuprincess04

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[QUOTE]I rather not have boutonniere in my wedding. I feel that it does'nt have any practical purpose in weddings and that if you can't see it in wedding photos then why wear it. But, it seems to be a tradition in every wedding. And I've already cut out so many traditions from my wedding that it has my mom spinning on her heals. Should I go with this tradition or do my own thing?
Posted by jadino03[/QUOTE]

<div>Its a way to recognize special guests, even those not in the wedding party. Like parents. I like idea of doing something special for them. But it is ultimately up to you.</div>

AdeleDazeem

I like boutonnieres.  I think they make a suit look more classy.

That said, there's no reason why you can't skip them.  Do pocket squares or do nothing at all.  It's definitely not wrong, just uncommon.

vanityink

The tradition comes from a knight wearing his lady's colors, I believe. If you want to have something like the tradition with Bouts, pocketsquares could do the same color thing. But yeah, you don't have to get them if you/your FI don't want.

itzMS

First of all, the bouts are for the men. So it should be your FI's decision, not yours.

In my circle, parents and grandparents LOVE wearing corsages and bouts...it's a huge tradition and they take it as an honor. Definitely evaluate your family's situation and feelings.

AddieCake

I like them, but if you and your fiance don't, there's no rule saying you have to have them. 

QueerFemme

I like them too, and you can see them in all of our photos.   We bought them for a few people that weren't in the WP because they were our immediate family (uncles, dad, and also, brothers, even my SIL's boyfriend).  They appreciated being recognized.

CrystaH11

My FI doesn't want Bouts, so we are doing just the pocket squares. We also cut out a lot of the traditional stuff that isn't necessary to help stick to our budget.

lovesclimbing

Well, yes you can see them in pictures. If you don't want them, you don't have to have them but they are a way of recognizing special guests like grandparents and such. I know my grandparents really appreciated the honor.

BMPazmino

Bouquets were first used t hide the smell of the brides because they. Bathed monthly. We now shower often, I hope hehe, so I guess flowers look nice on everyone. I like that it can be inexpensive too. My mm hand made all our boutineers. Burlap and some dried flowers from Michaels (with coupon!) cheap w/o too

bridalmarch

I made 13 bouts for less than $20. Peacock feathers, some ribbon, and some little fluffy things. But FI wanted them and I like the look of them. 

If you don't want them and FI is on board, don't do them. 

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]I rather not have boutonniere in my wedding. I feel that it does'nt have any practical purpose in weddings and that if you can't see it in wedding photos then why wear it. But, it seems to be a tradition in every wedding. And I've already cut out so many traditions from my wedding that it has my mom spinning on her heals. Should I go with this tradition or do my own thing?
Posted by jadino03[/QUOTE]

Interesting perspective!  I've never thought of boutonnieres as a wedding tradition, more of an option with formal dress (tuxedos).  Because H and I both love fresh flowers, H, his best man and my best man each wore a boutonniere.  I carried a bouquet of fresh flowers.

Do what suits you and your FI.  I cannot imagine a wedding photo of the groom or his attendants (or yours, if you have any gentlemen attendants) in which a boutonniere would not be visible.

mandi195

I"m wondering why OP thinks they won't be seen in the photos. Maybe confused as to what a bout is?