Same color dress as bridesmaids etiquette

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My MIL is getting remarried next month and the bridal party are her 2 adult children (1 boy, 1 girl) and her FI's 2 adult children (2 girls). My SIL suggested I wear purple to match my FI who is in the bridal party. She said that all the girls in the bridal party are having their SO wear purple in their suits to match. I've always felt that wearing the same color dress as the bridesmaids was a no no in weddings. I even brought this up to the bride to see how she reacted and she said it's fine if i want to wear purple. But I feel like she wouldn't tell me if she didn't want me to. If I do wear purple I'd want it to be a different shade because i don't want to match exactly since I'm not in the bridal party. So is it improper etiquette to wear the same color dress as the bridal party or do you think it's okay? 

Knottie_22382102

I was in a wedding where a random girl picked her dress to match ours and it was creepy...especially since she kept trying to be in our photos....but this isn't the same situation.

You asked, I'd say that's sufficient and you can wear it.
If you want to have no worries about it, wear a different color.

erinlin25

you asked, she said its fine, I'm sure its fine. Its not like you buying the same dress. I would do a different shade if you can, but that is me.

Emanons

Since it is fine with the bride, it is fine. 

AJuliaNJ

It sounds like she is fine with it. As long as the dress doesn't resemble the bridal party's dresses or isn't the same shade, it's not a big deal. Besides, most guests won't know the color until they get there so someone else is bound to have a purple dress.

I better be okay with people wearing the same color as my BM's because my BM's are wearing black.

AJuliaNJ

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_same-color-dress-as-bridesmaids-etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:79a68a94-9ddf-4cb8-b5d2-07fb8f502c11Post:d030b540-c32a-471e-bb32-6a19a159cf5c">Re: Same color dress as bridesmaids etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]I think your SIL and the bridesmaids are being rude by attempting to dictate the attire of people who are not in the wedding party. Wear that color ONLY if you want to do so.  Otherwise, ignore her request and wear whatever you wish.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>Good eye! (or maybe my reading comprehension just sucks). I totally missed that part. I thought OP just <em>wanted </em>to match FI. When I read your response, I originally thought you were replying to the wrong thing. It took me 3 read-throughs to catch that. </div><div>
</div><div>OP, I edit my original response to say wear purple if you want to. Don't wear it if the only reason is your SIL is dictating it.</div>