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MOH and BM dresses and shoes

I need a little help. I let my MOH and my BM (only having 1 of each) choose thier own dresses, that I OK'ed. To tie everything in together, I bought their shoes, and the jewlery for the wedding day.

They dont know yet, is it tacky for my to give it to them as their "gift"?

Re: MOH and BM dresses and shoes

  • umm...i dont think its "tacky".  but i wouldnt make those items their only gifts.  you should also get them personal things that dont need to be used for the wedding.  maybe a bag to put everything in?  throw in some bliss products or something.  some items i've received are a personalized towel, make up bag, travel coffee mug....

    we are giving our GM their ties as a gift...mainly b/c i want them all to be different, but cohesive.  but FI will also be getting them other stuff thats not needed for the actual wedding day.
  • Anything you are requiring them to wear isn't a gift. It's merely part of their wedding day attire.

    Like PP said, get them something else as a gift. Shop for them as if it's their birthday/Christmas.
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  • Yes, the shoes and jewelry are not gifts if you are asking them to wear it on your wedding day.

    Get them something else like pp's have said to show them how thankful you are to have them beside you on your special day.
  • I might appreciate jewelry as a gift, but definitely not shoes--I like to be able to choose my own, because so many of them are painful!

    Anything you're requiring them to wear is not a gift, it's just part of the ensemble. Why don't you add to it with something personal, like a gift card for a favorite restaurant or hobby shop.
  • It's not tacky to give them, but they need something that they're not required to use for the wedding as a gift.
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  • It's nice of you to pay for them (though entirely unnecessary that they match), but sorry, it's not a gift.  Nothing that's part of their wedding day "look", including jewelry, shoes, hair, makeup, mani/pedis, facials, or any other accessories, is a gift to them, it's a gift to you and your pictures.

    Shoes and jewelry are miniscule details, so they're really, really not going to have the unifying effect you hope for.  I couldn't tell you what shoes or jewelry my own bridesmaids wore.  If I were you, I'd let them choose their own accessories, return what you've bought, and put that money toward gifts they'll actually appreciate and use again.
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  • Yes, because it's part of their "uniform" for the day.


    It's fine that you required something and paid for it (as long as they don't mind wearing it), but it's not something you picked out especially for them. It's something that YOU wanted for YOUR wedding.
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  • I personally think that if you are buying them some of their attire for the wedding, you should include something else in their gift.  I think it's better to have the BMs pay for their own attire and then you as the bride give them a gift that they will be able to enjoy and use. 
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