Stumped on Groom's Attire

ECook25

Our wedding is an evening ceremony, and black tie.  My FI has said that he wants to somehow distinguish himself and the groomsmen from the other guests through their attire.  His point is that all (or the vast majority) of our male guests will be in tuxedos, and he doesn't want to be wearing the same thing as them.  He tried on a jacket with tails and looked fantastic but didn't like it, and he won't wear a white tie.  I'm not really sure what to suggest to him!  Are there any formal wear options I'm not thinking of that he could wear?

kateguess22

I would recommend that he and his groomsmen distinguish themselves by personalizing the tux and the bouteneir with the accent colour. For example, if your girls are in red, they could wear red bow ties and red boutenniers. Also, sorry if I'm spelling boutenneirs wrong I'm just on my way out the door. lol. Good luck to him!

Sweetjadedtears

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[QUOTE]I would recommend that he and his groomsmen distinguish themselves by personalizing the tux and the bouteneir with the accent colour. For example, if your girls are in red, they could wear red bow ties and red boutenniers. Also, sorry if I'm spelling boutenneirs wrong I'm just on my way out the door. lol. Good luck to him!
Posted by kateguess22[/QUOTE]

This is what I was going to suggest as well. My bouquet is about half white/half purple, so FI is going with a purple boutiniere (sp?) and some extra filler in his, and the GM are going with smaller white ones.

My FI wanted to wear a top hat, so that could be another option too :p

ECook25

The accent color part is a great idea...but my BMs are wearing black, and our flowers are all white/ivory/cream!  The bouts will be ivory flowers but since FI is not feeling the white tie, it eliminates that option.

Maggie0829

Honestly, I wouldn't be too concerned about this.  People will know who they are because they will be standing up front during the ceremony.  Once the ceremony is over with and the party gets started, I really doubt any of the guys are going to stay fully dressed (meaning jacket and even vest) so the idea of them wearing a colored bout won't work past the ceremony.

I know your FI wants to distinguish his GM from your guests, but your guests will only care about you and your FI and since your guests know who you are (hopefully), having your FI wear a different colored bout is not really that important when it comes to recognizing him.

aragx6

Get him a nice boutonniere -- that will distinguish him plenty!

TheDoctor10

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I wouldn't be too concerned about this.  People will know who they are because they will be standing up front during the ceremony.  <div>Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>This! Since you've stated that you're having a black tie affair, you really should adhere to the standards of black tie. Importantly, your gents' ties must be...black. There are a few ways to customize black tie attire while remaining true to the dress code. I highly recommend you explore this website:</div><div>
</div><div><a href="http://www.blacktieguide.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.blacktieguide.com/</a> </div><div>
</div><div>But, in the end, your Groom will not be lost among his groomsmen, regardless of whether the gentlemen are dressed similarly.</div>

L&J2012

My wedding is much less formal than yours, but we're hoping my FI looks good in a white dinner jacket. If not, we'll just get one of his suits tailored and he'll wear that (GM are wearing suits, too), and he's going to have a white bout and the GM will be wearing yellow bouts.

The white dinner jacket is probably not formal enough for your wedding, though.

TheDoctor10

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[QUOTE]The white dinner jacket is probably not formal enough for your wedding, though.
Posted by L&J2012[/QUOTE]

<div>The white dinner jacket is still appropriate for a black tie event, though admittedly a little less formal than a black jacket.</div><div>
</div><div>Since we're getting technical, the white dinner jacket is only apprpriate in warm weather. Wear it unseasonably and it it looks out of place. Also, if you decide to go this route, opt for the more flattering ivory, cream, or a slight off-white instead of pure white. Also consider that the technically correct waist covering for a white jacket is a black cummerbund.</div>