BM's little black dress and colored shoes?

jjmac2010

For the sake of my sanity (and remaining on good terms with my BMs) I chose not to select icky BM dresses in my wedding colors (blue and purple) and instead I'm having them choose a little black dress to their liking.  Similarly, the groomsmen are wearing their own black suits.  My dilemma is: will my bridal party look more like funeral attendants?  How can I incorporate the wedding colors into the BMs attire? (The groomsmen will wear ties with the blue in it.)  Sashes may not work with every BM's dress.  Would alternating blue and purple shoes look dumb?   Wedding will be outdoors in NC Sept 4th (meaning hot/muggy)  I'm stumped. Any ideas?

jagore08

I would just ask them to wear shoes of one of those colors and them let them pick their own shoes.

Sue-n-Kevin

Let them pick their own shoes in one of those colors. You could do shawls, (I know, it's hot), jewelry, bouquets, sashes, once you know the style of their dress

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Shoes, jewelry, flower in their hair, brooch on their dress, and the list goes on...

mbcdefg

My BMs were in black cocktail dresses and shoes, but I gave them green sashes. I also gave them green pashminas and one wore it during the ceremony. I didn't think it looked like a funeral at all, even if they hadn't had the green in their outfits. Their hair and makeup was done (their choice), they were carrying flowers and they were smiling. It's not like they were sobbing and walking in back of a casket. People don't normally attend funerals in cocktail dresses, either.  

bigvoice3

Could you just ask them to buy dresses that a sash would go with?  That doesn't limit it too badly?  My sorority sister did this at her wedding....6 different BM dresses, but with the same sash kind of tied it all together.

I think with some color pops you will be fine.

kee80

I was a BM in a wedding where we wore black dresses & our own, colorful, shoes.  We didn't look funereal at all - the photos are really cute & kicky.

aerinpegadrak

I just told my girls to pick some accessory in our accent color (silver).  A couple did headbands, one did a sash, some did jewelry...  Unless you're putting them in black veils, it's not going to look like a funeral.

If you do want them to go with colored shoes, let them pick their own, and give them plenty of lead time to be able to shop sales.