Men's Vests-Help!

MandyandJ

We're looking for grey vests for the guys in the wedding party- we're not doing tuxes or suits. I feel like we've looked at every department store and so many other places with no luck! We found one we loved at h&m but they didn't have all the sizes we needed. Any ideas on where to find some?

Thanks!

iloveu4ever

Have you tried thrift stores

opalsky007

Vests can be worn without a jackets as long as they don't have an adjuster strap on the back. You can find them at Men's Wearhouse for sure.

leia1979

I would think a tux place might also rent or sell vests. It would be an easy way to make money.

opalsky007

You're entitled to your opinion. I just wish you'd stop stating it like it was some kind of fact.

There is nothing inappropriate about vests, and I think they look great when done properly. My husband wears one when we ballroom dance and it looks damn classy to me.

par31

Hi
We are doing vests. Got them at JC Penny can be found in store online and in the catalog, J crew also has them, Macy's and Mens wearhouse has a limited amount more available online than in store.  Good Luck

Milsey32

You can get them at Presidents Tuxedo/Men's Warehouse

reese511

j.crew has them.

reese511

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[QUOTE]Vests are not supposed to be worn without a suit or tux jacket.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

says who???

my FI and his GM will be wearing something like this:

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personally, i think it looks awesome.

reese511

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Men's Vests-Help! : I take my suggestions for proper dress from Emily Post, Amy Vanderbilt and other etiquette sites.  Nowhere do I find it proper for a man to wear a vest without a coat.  Where do you find your information? PS. As a former performer, myself, I would say that a performance such as ballroom dancing, has a different standard of dress than a wedding.  I have worn many costumes that I would not wear as street wear.  You do look marvelous dancing together!
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

dont you think that the formality of the event should dictate whether a jacket/coat/blazer/whatever is necessary?  the vest has nothing to do with it. 

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Men's Vests-Help! : I take my suggestions for proper dress from Emily Post, Amy Vanderbilt and other etiquette sites.  Nowhere do I find it proper for a man to wear a vest without a coat.  Where do you find your information? PS. As a former performer, myself, I would say that a performance such as ballroom dancing, has a different standard of dress than a wedding.  I have worn many costumes that I would not wear as street wear.  You do look marvelous dancing together!
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank you!</div><div>
</div><div>So here's my problem: Emily Post and Amy Vanderbilt are great. I rely on them all the time for etiquette questions. But since they published their books, which include really strict divisions between casual, semiformal, formal, daytime and nighttime, events, weddings have changed a lot. There are a lot of events which don't quite fit into those boxes. Outdoor weddings are also far more common than they used to be, and so vests can be a really great way of making an event feel formal while being practical, and keeping gentlemen from overheating.</div><div>
</div><div>All of that aside, the point of a waistcoat was originally to prevent a man's suspenders from being seen when he removed his coat. In other words, they were meant to be seen, and without the coat when necessary. So I don't see the harm in simply forgoing the coat when conditions are too warm to merit it.</div>

reese511

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[QUOTE]Emily Post's book is updated frequently, and there is still the suggestion that grooms and groomsmen wear either a suit or a tuxedo.  I googled many websites last night, and all of them described suits as a jacket and trousers.  The vest was classified as an accessory, along with belts and ties.  Nowhere could I find any reference to men wearing a vest instead of a jacket.  Sportcoats and pants are acceptable now.  That is a change from 35 years ago.  Tight fitting polyester vests are much more uncomfortable than a lightweight sportcoat or suit jacket, which can be worn for the ceremony and then removed at the reception if the heat is oppressive.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

what you are refusing to accept is that with things like fashion & weddings, there is no norm anymore.  outdoor/casual weddings are very common these days...especially considering the current economic times.  not wearing a jacking isnt ONLY about comfort.  its about style as well.  personally - i chose vests only for our GM b/c i like the way it looks.  its more casual....and its cheaper than them having to buy/rent a blazer. 

MandyandJ

Thanks for your suggestions. We found some last weekend at Macy's and they're perfect! 

I enjoyed reading all the banter. I don't care who says vests aren't appropriate. This is our wedding with our style. It is a vintage casual theme. My fiance never wears suits or a tux and we both want to be comfortable and be ourselves. 

Thanks for the input!