Regrets about Wedding Dress

Pumpkingal82

I bought my wedding dress in December, and while I loved it at the time, I am not so thrilled with it anymore. I got it at a great price because it was from last season (or so I was told from the bridal store owner...but come to find out it's actually several season's old). My mom bought the dress for me, and I haven't told her yet about my feelings on the dress. Both my step-mom and two Aunts agree that I should look for another dress, because I should love the dress I am walking down the aisle in.

So with that being said...does anyone know where I should sell my current dress at? Of course there are no returns or exchanges on it, but I feel horrible not wearing it since my mother bought it for me. Any suggestions?

Thank you!!

itzMS

First, you need to go to your mom, since it is her money. Try on the dress for her and privately share your concerns.

Six months is a pretty quick turnaround for a wedding dress, but it can be done.


You maybe could sell your current dress on Ebay or sites like preownedweddingdresses.com

If it's not a popular designer you may have zero luck selling it, so don't get your hopes up. The market for pre-owned wedding dresses isn't huge.

VeronicaHanG

Try selling it on Craigslist....??

QueerFemme

You could try selling it on tradesy.com; preownedweddingdresses.com or oncewed.com. As PP mentioned, ebay and Craigslist are also options.

You could probably find a buyer for the dress eventually, but you should be realistic about the price you can get for it.   Most preowned gowns sell for about 40-60% of their original sale price.  Less if it's already been altered.

If you don't like your dress, I encourage you to keep shopping, and do so very soon.  But, be honest with your mom ASAP.  She may have hurt feelings over it, and you need to talk through that with her.

Uberoom12

The main question is: 

You don´t like the dress because is several seasons old; or is because you tried it again and it did not fit the way that it did before?

Regardless the reason is, discuss this with your mother and if you are not comfortable in it then try to change it.

csweaney

Definitely discuss this with your mother and share your feelings. Then assess if anything can be done to the dress in terms of alterations to help you love your gown. If not, go back to shopping. And you need to make these decisions quickly because dress turn around time is very slow. 

loca4pook

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[QUOTE]I bought my wedding dress in December, and while I loved it at the time, I am not so thrilled with it anymore. I got it at a great price because it was from last season (or so I was told from the bridal store owner...but come to find out it's actually several season's old). My mom bought the dress for me, and I haven't told her yet about my feelings on the dress. Both my step-mom and two Aunts agree that I should look for another dress, because I should love the dress I am walking down the aisle in. So with that being said...does anyone know where I should sell my current dress at? Of course there are no returns or exchanges on it, but I feel horrible not wearing it since my mother bought it for me. Any suggestions? Thank you!!
Posted by Pumpkingal82[/QUOTE]

Do you have the dress in your possession now? The reason I ask is because it is fairly common to have dress regrets because it is such a HUGE decision, so it is common for people to keep re-thinking it from the time they pick it out to the time they receive it.

I had doubts but once it came in and I trired it on again I loved it and remember what I loved about it..

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>The main question is:  You don´t like the dress because is several seasons old; or is because you tried it again and it did not fit the way that it did before? </strong>Regardless the reason is, discuss this with your mother and if you are not  comfortable  in it then try to change it.
Posted by Uberoom12[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This.  If you didn't know it was a few seasons old, most other people probably wouldn't either.  I wouldn't let this be the reason for dress regret and wanting a new one.</div><div>
</div><div>If you've tried it on and don't care for it anymore, figure out why.  Maybe you could alter it a bit?  Regardless, you need to involve your mom or you run the risk of hurt feelings.

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colleengilhooly

My dress is from 2009 (I think). I NEVER would have known if I hadn't googled it after I purchased it. No one else will know either and I love it regardless of the "age" of the dress/style! But if you don't like it because of the fit then you need to do what PPs said and talk to your mom asap.

Ella and Pedro

The way I see it is you have several options here, and they range in terms of economic consideration.

What might be the most affordable and practical solution is to take this dress to a really good dressmaker/seamstress and discuss your vision.  An appointment to consult is usually free or inexpensive.  Bring your foundation garments, petticoat, shoes, slip etc.  Try it on for this person.  For very little money they may be able to offer creative ways to customize this design and make it current as well as uniquely yours.

You could also try to sell it, and use the proceeds towards a whole new dress, which will also require paying for fittings, alternations, and waiting for the whole shebang. 

OR

You could sell it, but not wait for the sale of this dress to find your next/preferred dress.  Again, depending on your budget and how much alteration the original dress might need to become 'dreamy,' this might be the least stressful and easiest. 

You know, you don't have to only shop at Bridal Salons, you could seek an affordable, fresh option by expending your horizons and checking out prom dresses, military ball dresses, period costuming, mother of the bride dresses, cocktail dresses etc. 

Good luck

Uberoom12

The first thing to do is that definitely you have to talk with your mom, she is woman and she will understand your reason, second one you can offer your dress in a lot of websites you will find a buyer, an then the most exciting part, start hunting a new gorgeous wedding dress! Cheers!!! 

AJuliaNJ

I also am interested in knowing whether you have other misgivings beside the season it's from. I totally get it. After purchasing my dress, I was looking at videos on videographer sites and a girl that got married in 2010 had on my exact dress. I was a little annoyed and worried at first, especially since I paid full price, but I came to realize that wedding dress styles don't change as quickly as clothes. Unless you selected something really trendy, nobody will know.