dress for my 3rd wedding, his 1st

hollytbowen

I just showed my mom the dress that I had decided on a while back, and had planned on asking her to go wtih me for the fitting. She promptly said WHAT??! It's your 3rd go around, you are planning to wear that?!??! Here is the link to the dress...

http://www.marysbridal.com/item.aspx (Mary's bridal style 5703)

I have had my heart set on that dress for a while now although I did feel guilty about the price. Now, I am uncomfortable getting it as I don't want to see that kinda look on peoples faces as I walk down the aisle. I am just heart broken now.

what would you do?! HELP!!

Avion22

Your link doesn't work.

You can wear whatever you want for your wedding, whether it's your first or third makes no difference.  Your mom needs to chill.

sunshinewi

I am in the same exact situation.  I couldn't see the dress in your link (got an error message) but I say you should wear what you want to wear. 

RailWayWife

Link error

AdeleDazeem

If you google, you'll find the dress...

http://www.marysbridal.com/item.aspx?i=5703

anniegrat

Hi!

I am a professional wedding stylist and I can tell you WEAR WHAT YOU WANT!
You will be wearing this dress for yourself and him. You pictures will hang on your wall, and when you walk down the aisle feeling pretty and confident he will be seeing YOU and not your mother’s vision.
Go for it, felling gorgeous on your wedding is not proportional to the amount of times you have been married.

Enjoy your dress!

timsflower81

The dress is very pretty, if you having a formal/semi-formal wedding, I think its definitely appropriate.   You should wear whatever you are comfortable in for your wedding......   Is your mom against you getting married for the 3rd time? does she like your fi?  just seems like such an inappropriate comment from her.....  

QueerFemme

I agree with previous posters. Wear exactly what you want.  It doesn't matter if it's your first or your third wedding. You are getting married to someone you love and you want to have your day with him.  Do it however you want to.

I realize that there is etiquette that goes along with throwing a big wedding... and how things are "supposed" to be, and some of those things, I agree with. But, seriously?   Those rules have been broken a thousand times over.  How many of us are wearing white gowns?  White was supposed to be a symbol of purity.  From reading the message boards, it seems like a LOT of us live with our significant other before marriage. I'm assuming mot of us are having sex.   But, we still think its ok to wear white.  Because that is a tradition we have decided isn't important anymore.

It's your wedding. Create your own rules.

SugarFoote

I agree with PPs. Wear what you want. It doesn't matter if its your 1st, 3rd, or 15th!  Who cares? Wear what makes you happy. It's your day.

And BTW, that dress is beautiful!

RailWayWife

Wear what YOU want to wear. The dress is beautiful!

Habs2Hart

I might be in the minority, but I'd side eye that for a 3rd marriage.  Were most people who are invited on your side there at your first two?

Personally, I'd want something elegant and sophisticated for a 3rd go around, not something all out blinged up ball gown (but that's not my taste to begin with).  There are so many beautiful and classy dresses out there that would work. 

hollytbowen

Here the the knot link for my dress. Sorry the first one didn't work. We are having a very formal wedding, full of traditions for our children to hand down. I am torn, but I will end up wearing what I want, no matter what I may get to the bridal shop and the dress look hideous! I am just trying to make everyone happy, which is exactly what I am doing wrong. SO, we are going back to our original 125 ppl MAX guest list with formal dinner and fabulous personalized gift baskets for each person. After all it is oUR day and we want it to be remembered for many days to come.

http://www.theknot.com/wedding-dress/marys-bridal-pcmarysinc/5703

hollytbowen

and I wasn't looking for a blinged out ball gown either. We are having a traditional scottish wedding for a lot of things. I was torn between a traditional gown or a modern gown, and this one seemed to fit into both worlds. But, since my mom made that comment I have done some more looking and have found more gowns that I like that would have a similar effect. Guess we will see just what looks best on me when I get to the bridal shop!!!

artbyallie

By the way, you should probably start a new Knot account with a username that doesn't include your future name. (And take his full name out of your sig!) Internet safety.

hollytbowen

I took his name down, but make a new account? I wll have to see what all I will lose and have to redo. Guess it is worth it, but still. Today has just NOT been my day!

Habs2Hart

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_dress-for-my-3rd-wedding-his-1st?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:a3fe0388-0d8f-4b7a-b123-75f3c2611df6Post:7ecce61c-d483-43fe-a5d7-144c980c4d75">Re: dress for my 3rd wedding, his 1st</a>:
[QUOTE]I took his name down, but make a new account? I wll have to see what all I will lose and have to redo. Guess it is worth it, but still. Today has just NOT been my day!
Posted by hollytbowen[/QUOTE]

If you are using the knot tools (such as budget and guest list) don't delete this account, just create a different, more annonymous one to post on the boards with and keep the other one that has all your info that you use.

ceh789

Who is footing the bill?

If you're buying, wear what you want to wear.

I do somewhat agree with your mom though, that a 3rd wedding should be less of a PPD affair.

hollytbowen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_dress-for-my-3rd-wedding-his-1st?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:a3fe0388-0d8f-4b7a-b123-75f3c2611df6Post:9b7876a7-cdbe-47ea-bc23-7141e9111d36">Re: dress for my 3rd wedding, his 1st</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: dress for my 3rd wedding, his 1st : If you are using the knot tools (such as budget and guest list) don't delete this account, just create a different, more annonymous one to post on the boards with and keep the other one that has all your info that you use.
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

<div>great idea, thanks!</div>

hollytbowen

We are having a very small, very formal evening wedding in the fall of 2013. I am going to change my dress as I see even here there is a disparity as to what a person should do. We are footing the bill for our wedding completely. I will probably wear a very simple dress, but still need a very formal dress. I am having trouble finding one that suits my figure and combines both of those too! I will find one though. I have plenty of time.

I guess I should have been more specific. This is my 3rd marriage, 2nd actual wedding...his 1st, although I guess that probably doesn't make much difference

kristib0720

Get what you want... it is your wedding day!  You are always going to look back and regret it if you do not.  This is mine and fiance's second wedding and we plan to have a big fancy wedding I plan to wear a big fancy white dress, because that is what WE want!