Who pays for fg/rb attire?

stevelovesmelissa

Hi Ladies,

Help please! I am not sure if I should assume the parents of our young attendants are going to pay for their outfits, or if I should put money for the dress and tux in our budget. When we asked if their children could be in our wedding, the topic of who would pay did not come up.  Let me say that I by no means have an unlimited budget (if I did, I would gladly pay for the attire for all of our attendants!). I'm just not sure what the norm is here.

Thanks for your advice

itzMS

The parents would normally pay, which is why you ask the parents if it's OK for the kids to participate. You did that, so it should be fine.

That being said, make sure any attire you choose is within the parents' budget (ask them privately). It would also be fine to say something like "Little Susie can wear any blue dress and Little Johnny can wear any white dress shirt and dress black pants". That way, the parents can shop at Goodwill or Walmart or Macys or anywhere in between based on their budget.

stevelovesmelissa

Thanks   I have another related question...

Our flowergirl will be the fg in another wedding one month prior to ours. A lot of the wedding party will be in both weddings (the groom from wedding number 1 is one of our groomsmen; my FI is a groomsman in wedding number 1; father of the fg will be a groomsman/usher in both weddings). Would it be inappropriate if I just let her wear the same fg dress to our wedding? Both weddings have the same formality level, and I have confidence in the taste of the other bride and the mother of fg. Her mom will also be a bridesmaid in wedding number 1, so there are a lot of wedding expenses happening for this family in a short time frame!

Thoughts?

AddieCake

I think it's a great idea to have her wear the same dress. I'm sure her parents will appreciate it!

Jager1219

I think that would totally be fine!  Less expenses for the parents and the kids get to rewear the outfit.

ETA - just hope the kids don't get it dirty though!

Barbiiieee

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_who-pays-for-fgrb-attire?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:a761c59f-122f-47d6-b553-436a8325b1d8Post:82c4c9de-f621-4e2e-926b-933712facc50">Recycled flowergirl dress</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks :)  I have another related question... Our flowergirl will be the fg in another wedding one month prior to ours. A lot of the wedding party will be in both weddings (the groom from wedding number 1 is one of our groomsmen; my FI is a groomsman in wedding number 1; father of the fg will be a groomsman/usher in both weddings). Would it be inappropriate if I just let her wear the same fg dress to our wedding? Both weddings have the same formality level, and I have confidence in the taste of the other bride and the mother of fg. Her mom will also be a bridesmaid in wedding number 1, so there are a lot of wedding expenses happening for this family in a short time frame! Thoughts?
Posted by stevelovesmelissa[/QUOTE]

<div>I would maybe ask the other bride or make sure the FG's parents were in fact the ones paying for it on this. My niece will be my flower girl, and since her mom (my older sister) is generally pretty tight on money, I offered to purchase the FG dress, and I am happy to do it. Our other sister is getting married shortly after me, and I'm not going to lie, I would be kind of annoyed if she wanted my niece to use the same dress since she knows I am paying for it myself an also since her wedding budget is like, twice what mine is because her FI's parents are paying.</div><div>
</div><div>I think if the parents are purchasing the dress, you'd be just fine and they will probably be super happy with you. </div>

CrystaH11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Recycled flowergirl dress : I would maybe ask the other bride or make sure the FG's parents were in fact the ones paying for it on this. My niece will be my flower girl, and since her mom (my older sister) is generally pretty tight on money, I offered to purchase the FG dress, and I am happy to do it. Our other sister is getting married shortly after me, and I'm not going to lie, I would be kind of annoyed if she wanted my niece to use the same dress since she knows I am paying for it myself an also since her wedding budget is like, twice what mine is because her FI's parents are paying. I think if the parents are purchasing the dress, you'd be just fine and they will probably be super happy with you. 
Posted by Barbiiieee[/QUOTE]

If the other bride did pay for it, what it she really going to do with it after the wedding? I don't think most brides would take issue with their flower girl keeping her dress, and therefore possibly using it again, whether for another wedding or not.  I think a bride would rather see the FG get more than one use out of it and have their own money be worth more than one wear.