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do i get to go tux shopping?

I was kind under the impression i was going to go with the men to " see over things", ya know make sure the boys dont pick out blue and orange tuxes or FI insist he's two sizes smaller. 

His best man told me NO WAY NO HOW the other day, and i was a little surprised ( disappointed?)

I dont want to be pushy and ruin guy time.. but i thought my opinion would matter here! 

Re: do i get to go tux shopping?

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    [QUOTE]I was kind under the impression i was going to go with the men to " see over things", ya know make sure the boys dont pick out blue and orange tuxes or FI insist he's two sizes smaller.  His best man told me NO WAY NO HOW the other day, and i was a little surprised ( disappointed?) I dont want to be pushy and ruin guy time.. but i thought my opinion would matter here! 
    Posted by bpell0402[/QUOTE]  It depends on whether the groom wants his bride with him.  Some do and others do not.  The only true guy time is the bachelor party. 
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    I went with my fiance, just the two of us, to go get him fitted.  I'm glad I did because I briefly changed the color of my wedding to another color because I realized what a super dark shade of purple I'd chosen.  I've since changed it back and I blame the lighting in that store but my fiance has plans in a couple of months to go with his groomsmen.  We already made decisions on the style, shoes, color, etc...but he can have a day/night with the guys and I won't be involved at all.
  • It's really up to your FI, not his best man.  if he wants you there and wants your opinion, you get to go. If he wants to do the shopping on his own with his friends, then you have to trust that they won't choose something horrible.  
  • I guess maybe I'm controlling....either that of my fiance isn't very interested in the details of the wedding, but I went in to the tux store myself, told them what I wanted to groomsmen and my fiance to wear, then scheduled an appointment for my fiance to get fitted. 

    I would ask your fiance if he would like you to come with him. And if he says no, maybe show him some swatches and say "I think this color would be nice" etc. 


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    [QUOTE]In Response to do i get to go tux shopping? :  It depends on whether the groom wants his bride with him.  Some do and others do not.  The only true guy time is the bachelor party. 
    Posted by Emanons[/QUOTE]
     Did he go with you to buy your dress? If so, and you're that type of couple, then there you go. Otherwise, give him an idea of what you want in terms of formality and let him be.
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    [QUOTE]It's really up to your FI, not his best man.  if he wants you there and wants your opinion, you get to go. If he wants to do the shopping on his own with his friends, then you have to trust that they won't choose something horrible.  
    Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree. 

    My FI and I picked out his attire together.  I went along for the fitting because we were already out and about shopping and it was convenient to do so.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: do i get to go tux shopping? :  Did he go with you to buy your dress? If so, and you're that type of couple, then there you go. Otherwise, give him an idea of what you want in terms of formality and let him be.
    Posted by masdumas[/QUOTE]

    This is pretty much what I was going to say. FI didn't go with me to pick out my wedding dress, though he wanted to, and in the same token, he told me I can't go with him to get tuxes and accessories with his brothers (FI already owns a tux). But, we discussed what we wanted for both before either appointment. And I'm sure it'll turn out fine.
    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
  • Yeah, I didn't want FI to see my dress, so I offered if he wanted to go pick out his tux alone/with the guys. He told me he wanted me there to get a second opinion, so I went with him. It's really up to your FI
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  • My FI at first said I couldn't go since I didn't let him come dress shopping.  But we've looked a ideas together and have said "I like this," "i'm not a fan of this."  He's pretty clueless but we've had similiar taste, so I trust he will pick something nice and appropriate.  The other night he asked when we shoud go try stuff on, and I said "I thought I couldn't go!?".  He laughed and said he was joking and would like me to at least go with him to try stuff on and decide together.   
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  • I went just with my FI and I'm glad I did. I didn't want a boxy tux and I actually hated all but 1 of the options they had at the store. I also ended up selecting different tie options than what we originally had though.

    If he really wants to do it with his groomsmen maybe you guys can take a trip together beforehand so you can hash some stuff out together with details? If you're trying to match anything (dresses?) you may want to use that as an excuse because I can guarantee that a guy isn't going to match a swatch in a tux shop!

    Here's a pic of my wonderful hubby and his boys in their tuxes!! We ended up with the Vera Wang tux.




  • Fh and I went together just to get ideas. But when they go to shop, they're on their own. Fh and his groomsmen know and love the definition of tacky, or looking stupid lol. fh knows we're doing deep red and girls are wearing black satin, so I'm pretty sure they'll do just fine on their own.
    plus, fh may decide to wear ivory, and my only objection was for him to figure it out, so I can choose my dress shade accordingly. if I wear white, I don't want him in ivory, and vice versa.
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