Is this normal? Or am I wierd?

MourningMist

So I did my first round of dress shopping yesterday. Totally disappointed. I tried on just about every dress they had in my size and didnt find anything I liked. Even the styles i had been looking at for the last 4 months i hated. I still have over a year before the wedding so I have plenty of time to shop but I can't believe how un-excited i was. I've never really been into clothes shopping, I'm the type to only buy when i need to and rarely splurge. I always thought that when I would go dress shopping it would be fun and exciting but i just felt so out of place. Has anyone ever been there before? I'm a little depressed to think I didnt get excited about dress shopping. Is the dress REALLY that important?

girl2bewed

The dress is only as important as you make it. You WILL get excited when you find the dress you love, and like you said you have a lot of time. Its not strange to not get excited when all the dresses you tried on you hated. Have the sales associate pull the dresses for you instead since obviously the ones you thought you liked you dont. Get out of your comfort zone and try on some different dresses and maybe you'll be pleasantly suprised.

Festiva

It's okay to be disappointed initially.  There really is a dress for you- and you'll get excited about it...but maybe you won't be overcome or gushing...totally fine.

Perhaps you're taste exceeds the place/s you went to yesterday.  Sometimes the style of a dress isn't the only turn off....sometimes the material involved is more important then you realize.  I don't know where you went but I do know a girl personally who couldn't find anything.  She finally found herself in a high end bridal boutique (totally not within her original budget) and found that the material of the gowns mesmerized her...she ended up torn between two dresses at that shop when she couldn't find one she even remotely like anywhere else.

mbcdefg

You are not weird. If you don't like shopping in regular life, then your wedding gown won't be much different ... weddings don't suddenly turn you into different people.

Be very vocal with your fitting attendants about what you like and don't like about each dress. "I like this fabric ... I don't like this neckline ... this silhouette makes my butt look great ... I think I want to try a tea-length dress instead of a long gown" ... saying stuff like, "This is O.K., I guess" isn't going to be productive. Don't worry that you'll insult them ... it's their job to help you find the right dress, and it's not like it's their personal designs anyway. You won't insult them as long as you are polite.

If you vocalize the aspects of each gown that you like, they can narrow down the options for you and pull dresses that incorporate those features. It's like a puzzle - you just need to keep trying different things and different combinations until you find something that falls into place.

ring_pop

The first couple of dress shopping trips were pretty 'meh' for me too. Turns out it's just not that exciting to put on something that ends up looking less than fabulous. I really only got excited when I found a dress that I loved.

pavingtheroad

My advice is to try on anything and everything within your price range, even if it doesnt catch your eye on the hanger. I ended up falling in love with a dress my consultant picked and it didnt catch my eye on the hanger, it just looked like a square, but on, wow it brings out all the curves (its mori lee 4501)

dixieonny

I kind of went through that too.. I tried on 10 different dresses the first time.. I liked 1 or 2.. and it took a few tries until I found the one I was looking for.

steve_erica

I have to pipe in!  I found my dress the first day I went looking- but it was a style I had NO IDEA I would like!!  I was going for the flowy, lacey, vintagey halter look and tried on this gorgeous strapless (!) A-Line Silk with draping and beading and really, really liked the way it made me look.  But didn't buy it (it was a sample, final sale, no holds- couldn't commit).  I went to another store, tried on a similar dress and here's the clincher- it was THE dress but there were no angels singing, no epiphany, no gush of glory, blah blah blah!  I knew it was the dress because I simply didn't want to take it off.  It was comfortable and made me feel pretty and I seriously didn't want to take it off. That's all.

My other advice is take along a couple of outspoken friends/family members who can really be honest with you about how a dress looks ON YOU.  Those people were invaluable to me, because it was their reactions to the dresses, and feedback and pictures that helped me decide.  If it had just been me shopping alone- I never would have decided.  It's too hard, in the moment, to be truly objective about how the dresses look on you.

Anyways, hang in there- you will find it.  But don't rush- you've got so much time!  I bought mine only 2.5 months before my wedding, which was just perfect.