Am I asking for trouble?

briehannah

Hey everyone... I have always thought of having all my BM's in the SAME Dresses. Same color, same length, same everything!! However, as I have gotten more involved in the process, I am thinking it might be easier (for everyone involved, including myself) if all the girls pick out their own dresses.
I would tell them where I would want them to buy from (so it's the same designer), what color to choose from (all the same color), and that they all have to be floor length.
This would allow them to pick out a dress that's in their own budget and something that they feel comfy in with thier body type. (some of them have told me that they like strapless, some like halter, and some like spaghetti strap)
Do you think I am opening up myself to some serious trouble if I don't have more of a hands on approach tot what they all wear? Or do you think this is a brillaint ida for my sanity and thiers? Thanks for the input in advance!!

mmenillo

That depends. Are you a control freak who is easily distracted and upset by minor details that will make you cry 30 years from now when you look at your wedding pictures? Then yes. If not, just be careful to choose a designer that you like and let your bridesmaids handle it. And if there really are dresses in that collection that make you want to vom, then consider selecting certain styles you'd like them to choose from.

jolenne

I think if you feel comfortable with them wearing different dresses then you should let them do it. I'm sure they won't have a problem with it- after all they are getting to choose their own dress. Worst case scenario they buy the same dress except for one- Then she'll stand out. But if it's the same color, same length and same designer- Go for it. I'm having 2 different dresses- same color, same length.

ChelseaBFH

I think it's a great compromise -- you'll get to be sure the fabric/color is uniform, they get to pick a dress that they like.  I actually WANTED to do this, so that everyone could have something that they felt good in, but my bridesmaids all liked the same dress. 

Just two considerations...

If you're telling them what designer to buy from, the dresses are probably going to all be about the same price (especially if you're choosing the fabric, color, and length).  So you should still take their budget into consideration when choosing the designer.

A lot of people want their MOH to stand out by wearing a different style dress.  If you wanted to do this, you'll have to find another way to have your MOH stand out.  Not a big deal, just something to think about!

sreitme

I did this with my bridesmaids. I actually went with all three of my BMs to pick their dresses out, but only gave them feedback as far as what looked best on them. They definitely appreciated being able to choose a dress that they felt best in.

akelch_265239

If you don't mind them having different dresses, go for it!  It sucks having different opinions.  If you don't want to hear about it, pick out the dress you like and tell them that is the one! 

Or if you don't mind different ones,  I might tell them they either have to be floor length or tea length so that they don't look completely different.  As long as they are the same color the top, strapless, halter, etc.really won't be that noticable.  However, if the lengths are different, it will be noticable.

Hope that helps!

shauni27

My bridesmaids are all getting a black knee length dress that THEY like.  I think it looks better to have your BMs all happy and looking good in something that fits their bodies rather than all wearing the same thing that might not look as good.

LouWho19

My BM's are all over the country...not a single one lives in Jacksonville like I do.  And they are all different sizes/heights so I already decided getting them to all wear the same dress would be a nightmare! So I'm going to give them basic guidelines for everyone's sanity and pocket books since they can each shop within their own price range.

But as some other brides have said, do what's going to make you happy...you are the bride after all I just know my girls have good taste so I trust them to pick dresses within the guidelines I set out.

mica178

I'm leaning towards picking a designer, color, fabric and length and letting them choose the style.  I like Alfred Sung's line.  There are a bunch of simple dresses that have unifying themes but allow for a bit of personalization from each lady. 

Originally, I was thinking about the convertible dresses, but that might be too casual for my church.  And I was thinking of telling everyone to wear whatever dark blue dress they wanted to, but I worried that one or two (of my six) girls would pick something that totally stuck out. 

noodle_oo

My suggestion will be to choose like 4-6 dresses that you like with different styles and letting them choose from that.  I took my BMs shopping with me and I didn't really care what they wore and I kept telling them that.  But they really wanted to know what I wanted them to wear.  So just keep that in mind, if you tell them they can get whatever, they might keep asking you what YOU want!  It was really sweet, but also was actually rather stressful. My BMs were really indecisive (kept saying "we'll wear whatever you want us to wear!"), so in the end, I just chose a dress and they all loved it.

But I'd still recommend:  first find out their budgets.  Certain designers are in higher price ranges, so even if you choose say Bill Lekoff, all their dresses were more expensive than my BMs could afford (we wanted to say below $150).

duckie1905

I didn't even go that far.  I gave them a color (black) and let them run with it.  Best wedding decision I made.  I was happy and everyone else was happy too.

wcvsb3b5

I chose the designer, length, and color and let my girls choose their own dress from there. I have six girls and they are all happy with the dress they are going to wear! I am happy I decided to do it that way and I personally think it looks better than the matchy-matchy look.

jodylynn78

My sister did this at her wedding and it was perfect! There were 3 of us BM's, 1 petite, 1 tall and thin, and 1 was 8 months pregnant. We were all able to pick the best dress for our body. We were all comfortable and it looked great!

Rachachell

I did the same thing as duckie...just told them to pick a black dress that they loved and let them run with it. I have been surprised that they have all chosen knee length dresses, but all of the shapes and styles are perfect for each of their bodies. BEST DECISION EVER. I have seven girls, one is kind of a hippie, one is pregnant, one is always dressed to the nines--I could never have picked something to satisfy each of them, and I just want them all to feel pretty! I was at a wedding recently where a bridesmaid complained to me about how much she hated her dress and the color (it was pretty bad) and I vowed not to put my girls in the same position. After all, they are my nearest and dearest, right?

The danger of picking a specific designer is that you don't create any flexibility in price, which seems to be an issue for some of your girls.

If you can't handle not know exactly what each girl will wear, pick out a few in varying price ranges and allow each girl to choose for herself.

Veittobe

My cousin did this for her wedding that I was in.  She chose a designer. color and length and we could all choose from there.  It was the first time I wore a bridesmaid dress I actually loved!  I plan to do the same thing at my wedding.