2nd time bride veil and dress help PLEASE!

JeniBug82

This is my2nd time down the aisle, his first. My first was to a verbally abusinve man and we had a terrible marriage! Not to mention the fact that I did not have my dream wedding by any means!
My fiancee and I are defintely soul mates, we feel as if we have known each other forever. He is sooo into having the whole traditional party...he wants a wedding/reception, which I am not 100% about since this is my second time. We are having an outdoor wedding in a botanical garden, and a dinner and dance reception.Our reception theme is going to be "childhood memories,"  using all of the Kim Anderson line for invitations,etc. Also, I want this day to be laid back and relaxed.I know that the old "etiquette" is kinda out the window as of modern times, but I am still a bit of a traditional girl. My question is...

1) I want a simple gown, something not too plain but I want to look like a bride...do I buy a simple bridal gown or a white bridesmaid dress? Or should I even buy white at all? I know I "can" wear white, but I feel like I shouldn't... I am hung up on not only the fact that I am a second time bride, but also confused as to how to match the dress to the formality (or informality) of the wedding!
2) I know, also, that I "can" wear a veil, but second time brides should not wear a blusher. I am REALLY loving the birdcage veils that are in right now, is this considered a blusher since it is generally worn in front of the face?

Thank you so much for your help! I guess I am just wondering overall, yes they say whatever the bride and groom wants, goes; but I am wondering what people REALLy think... Thanks bunches!

katieanne85

your wedding sounds fun I have seen brides in ivory or blush bridesmaids dresses that look lovely! I saw online one in white too, its cost effective and can be way fun, go for it, if your wedding is not too formal, you can go for tea length or knee length, I think everyone will know your the bride!
I love birdcage veils, do it if you like, I have also seen the ones where they cover the face partially or just cover the hair with a bit of netting or tulle, very pretty, try etsy for ideas. wear what you feel comfortable in, you can wear it over yuor face if you like, but if it makes you uncomfortable, wear it over your hair, or just over your forehead and eyes.
Congradulation on getting married to someone awesome!!

LindsMullinix

this is YOUR wedding, whether its the first, or the second its still YOUR wedding - and it sounds like its your opp to have the dream wedding you would have chosen the first time around.  I think a nice sheath dress would be lovely for the garden feel, maybe a lace gown?  Wear what YOU feel comfortable in.  As for the birdcage veil - I LOVE them and think it would be beautiful.   Just go with what you will feel comfortable in and thats all that should matter - good luck and Congrats!!

AlannaF

Wear what you want.  You don't need to wear off-white or any other color just because you are not a first-time bride. Gone are the days where the second-time bride sheepishly walks down the aisle in a color that advertises her less-than "pure" status.  From what I understand, white signifies joy and, to me, is as appropriate for any wedding just as the traditional pink or blue is used for babies - it's just a traditional color.  But everyone has their own opinion on this, so if you really can't get past feeling weird about white, just get a nice ivory dress - whatever makes you happy.

There are some fabulous bride-appropriate dresses that aren't considered "bridal" - I saw an amazing one by BCBG the other day.  But I would encourage you to try on dresses of all styles.  Who knows, you may fall in love with one that you never thought you'd consider. I wanted a plain one with a fluffy tulle skirt and fell in love with something quite different.

As for the veil, I'd pick your dress first, and then worry about the veil.  I think a birdcage veil would rock.  I wanted one but it looked odd with the dress I chose. I don't think the fact that it somewhat covers the face is an issue at all.  Just set it at a jaunty angle and call it done.

I struggled with the same things you are.  But the more I kept thinking, "Oh I can't do that, I'm a second-time bride!", the more I took away the joy and excitement of finally finding the right man.  Enjoy your time and leave the past in the past.

arllinma

I am also a second time bride. I had a very formal black tie affair first with a very pretty, fancy gown. This time around, I want something less formal. I will prob still wear wehite as I hate the off white color. I think I amy go for one of the dresses with color- I would have never done that the first time around. I have also looked at bridesmaid dressses, but most of them are just not bridesy enough for me. I don't want a lot of stuff on the dress, and no train but still pretty. I am having a hard time finding a dress! Ones without a train are hard to come by.