Till death do us part themed wedding...

Jeepers8505

we were both think of themes and all the litle phrases in weddings and we are stuck on "till death do us part", with no religion in the pictue for us it would be till death do us part. so going with that theme im not sure what direction to on on colors and whatnot- we both love skulls and things Halloween - BUT we dont want a Halloween wedding, will will be getting married in  October, any ideas ladies??

itzMS

Do you honestly HAVE to do a theme? I don't get why brides are so obsessed with this.

Personally, I think the graveyard/death/halloween/zombie apocolypse weddings are horrendous.

Just have floral centerpieces or candles that fit your taste...it doesn't have to follow any kitschy theme.

Tabbie11

Mmm maybe like dark purples / plum colors with a silver or cream to brighten...
Honestly though all I can think about is tall dark candelabras and the Adam's family.

QueerFemme

I would skip having a theme, if that is your idea.  I find them very morbid and in poor taste, honestly, and often, way way overdone. 

Just decorate in colors you love, and skip the theme idea.

HobokensFury

Sorry but this has the potential to be creepy.

Peavy

Death and weddings just don't seem to go together for me.  Instead of "Til Death us do part" how about "As long as we both shall live."  Same thing, but less morbid.

mandi195

I love the image in the OP, however, can see how the theme could get creepy and seem odd to some. I've been to a "darker" themed wedding, and while I love all of that type of stuff (all things halloween, skulls, etc), it just seemed weird to me and the others there. I say go with the amazing decorations like in your photo, maybe have "til death do us part" somewhere (programs, something small) and leave the "theme" to that minor detail. Too much and I think it will come too dark.

monkeysip

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[QUOTE]What about Day of the Dead? This isn't what it sounds like....it's a celebration of family and ancestors.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I was thinking this exactly.  You could include day of the dead kind of imagery, but on a happier note.


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Fernella

It's your day.  If you want spring colours for an october wedding go for it!  The 'Til death do us part" idea can be done in a tasteful way with an emphasis on your life ahead and all of the milestones to come.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]Do you honestly HAVE to do a theme? I don't get why brides are so obsessed with this. Personally, I think the graveyard/death/halloween/zombie apocolypse weddings are horrendous. Just have floral centerpieces or candles that fit your taste...it doesn't have to follow any kitschy theme.
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

I've wondered this many many times myself.  My wedding will be "wedding themed".  *shrug*

Avion22

My first husband died suddenly after we had been married for four years.   So we really WERE parted by death, and I can tell you that the "till death do us part" sentiment is absolutely not appropriate for a wedding.  His death was 5 years ago, and I'm remarried, but I'm afraid that if I showed up at a wedding and the theme was "till death do us part" I wouldn't be able to handle it and would have to leave.   

Chances are you will have a few guests who have dealt with the death of a spouse, and I think you risk offending them with this.  Well, not just offending them, but making them feel really uncomfortable and marginalized.   

I would pick a different theme, or skip the theme altogether.

calliopeia2013

I also agree with Avion.  There will be a number of widows and widowers attending my wedding, some remarried, some not.  None of them would want to be reminded directly of their loss.

Themes aren't really important anyway, colors are much more effective at unifying a look.

button6004

OP, a college friend just lost her husband while they were on their honeymoon. Six days after their wedding.  I dont find your theme tasteful at all and would strongly encourage you to reconsider.
 
That being said, I dont see anything wrong with using darker colors with floral centerpieces.

DaveandRoxy

To answer your question. Grey and Black or Black and Red would go with your theme. But the theme has the potential to go wrong in so many ways. 

eesh33

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[QUOTE]Mmm maybe like dark purples / plum colors with a silver or cream to brighten... Honestly though all I can think about is tall dark candelabras and the Adam's family.
Posted by Tabbie11[/QUOTE]
Colors would be greaat together! Great idea!

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]Death and weddings just don't seem to go together for me.  Instead of "Til Death us do part" how about "As long as we both shall live."  Same thing, but less morbid.
Posted by Peavy[/QUOTE]

great idea unless you plan on having the seating in coffins

Jeepers8505

To follow up this post, I do not want it to look "Halloweeny, Creepy, Morbid etc" (although i love everything dark and spooky)I very much whant a white wedding. Im going with a white/ivry sweetheart ballgown with a black calla lily bouquet (depending on the spicies of the flower they come in a few shades of black. (more eggplant color or more burgundy) and then for my brides maids dresses and flowers i want them in (eggplant OR burgundy- matched to flower) with white calla lily's (and both species of flowers have center of both colors ill try to link photos   I also love the damask design and it goes with both colors. 

I am in no way religious so my beliefs are until death we will be together that is why i like the "til death".

Also wanted to thank everyone who commented its been helpfull and nice to hear others oppioions, happy weddings to all