Two cousin bridesmaids bail out bc of dress

Mariazap19

Four months until my wedding and my two cousins are bailing on being my bridesmaids bc they do not like they dress! Just need to vent! they along with my aunt have bashed the dress I have choosen from top to bottom! Showed up at centereach bridal suite 2 times caused a scene according to the employees. Told me they love me so much they dont want the pictures that will last forever to look horrible, and they will if I pick the dress. So I finally show up and meet them at the store where they continue to try and get me to change the dress and make me feel like I picked the worst dress in the world! Meanwhile all 4 other girls ordered and they were holding the order bc of them and about to be charged a rush fee. Start complaing that I want everyone to get there hair and makeup done together the day of the wedding and end up telling me "no hard feelings" we dont want to be in wedding and leave! They have upset the whole family! I just cant believe this!! The dress is belsoie L3062... Any thoughts?

smitsr79

I am so sorry to hear about this!  I looked at the dress and I think that it is very pretty and will look good on all body types.  One thing that I have definitely learned from picking the bridesmaid dresses and everything else is that you can't please everyone.  I know that is one of the things that we want to do, but unfortunately it is not possible.  I sorta had the same situation only my fiance's mother and sister (who is a bridesmaid) did not like the dress that the rest of the girls liked.  They gave me a hard time and she even refused to try on any other dress.  We CAN'T choose our family, but take this as a learning experience.  It sounds like it is an excuse that your cousins would do this, so maybe the real problem is them and not the dress?  You will find a solution and I hope things turn out.  Remember, everything happens for a reason.  I hope I made you feel a little better.

vsgal

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[QUOTE]I am so sorry to hear about this!  I looked at the dress and I think that it is very pretty and will look good on all body types.  One thing that I have definitely learned from picking the bridesmaid dresses and everything else is that you can't please everyone.  I know that is one of the things that we want to do, but unfortunately it is not possible.  I sorta had the same situation only my fiance's mother and sister (who is a bridesmaid) did not like the dress that the rest of the girls liked.  They gave me a hard time and she even refused to try on any other dress.  We CAN'T choose our family, but take this as a learning experience.<strong>  It sounds like it is an excuse that your cousins would do this, so maybe the real problem is them and not the dress?</strong>  You will find a solution and I hope things turn out.  Remember, everything happens for a reason.  I hope I made you feel a little better.
Posted by smitsr79[/QUOTE]

Probably the opposite.  If two people are unhappy with the selection of a specific dress, then it is the dress. People want to feel good in what they wear and not to feel like they are props for your vision of a perfect wedding day.  If someone is not happy about paying  money for a dress that they will only wear once, you need to take their opinion in consideration and come to a compromise without a meltdown.  If someone is not comfortable in the dress, that will show in the pictures forever. 

Mariazap19

Thank you!! I think it is exactly that an excuse bc these girls are 5 foot 11 inches and weigh 120 pounds max and everyone said how beautiful they look in the dress. They are just used to wearing tighter dresses and were unhappy with my decision after I did compromise a lot with them. The other 4 girls would not have been comfortable in a tight dress one just had a baby and I explained that to them. The employees said they never heard in 25 years any girls be so rude and nasty to a bride.

kimiandgary

Are you sure its the dress and not the cost?

What a crappy situation. Totally sucks

Mariazap19

Yes the dress was $159 and my aunt offered to pay and they both live at home anyways. They were picking dresses $250 plus for me to get which the other girls could never afford!

aynos77

I think the dress is beautiful! If four other girls like the dress on, including one that just had a baby it must be a flattering dress and these girls are just used to getting their own way and used to being the center of attention! I say, go on with your other 4 girls and have a great time! ... it is their loss, not yours.

Avion22

I hate saying bad things about other people who I don't know...but it sounds like maybe them dropping out now might have saved you a lot of drama down the road.  If they're going to be nasty about a dress and pitch a fit in the bridal shop, then maybe it's best for everyone that they have stepped down.

No, you can't please everyone, but the least they could have done is acted like adults. 

firsttimersluck

These Bridesmaids seem like brats. 

Care to share a picture of the dress? Unless the dress 1. doesn't fit everyone in the bridal party, 2. is outside the price range of the ladies, or 3. is absolutely horrific and you're being cruel by putting them in something hideous on purpose.. 

It sounds like you could use to lose these people. They are causing more drama than you need. This isn't something you should have to be stressing about all the way up to the wedding day.. and if they are really this bratty, it's probably not going to just stop at the dress. 

kizznible

Wow that is rough. i have to agree with most of these ladies that it sounds like you are better off. the question is are you still going to have them come to the wedding? I dont know if i could be the bigger person or not. if this situation has cause a problem in the fact it had ruined some of your plans with having 6 girls in your party then I would see if anyone could take their place, but if you can handle it with just the 4 girls then think of it as saving some money. 

Mariazap19

Dont know how to add the picture but its L3062 by belsoie... Its actually the best selling style when you click on that option. I am still inviting them to the wedding. I love them and they are my only female cousins... I tried so hard to compromise with them on everything but it just seems they dont want to be in the wedding party. I dont want to upset my family anymore about the situation then they already are... My grandmother was looking so forward to all her granddaughters being in a wedding together. Its upsetting to everyone in the family, I would never not invite them because of what that would do to the family. But they have hurt me deeply over the situation!