Got the Dress.. Now who gets to see it before the wedding?

jazi84

I just bought my Wedding Dress last week with my Mother and MOH.  Since then lots of people are asking to see it, and asking for lots of details.  To be honest I would love to show everyone because I love it so much, but I feel like it should for the most part be a surprise.  Im afraid if i start showing some people it will get out of hand and everyone will know what my dress looks like before the big day.. Im thinking Bridesmaids/Grandmothers and my future Mother in Law..  But what do you think? Who have you shown pictures of your dress to? And how many people is too many?  

jagore08

I showed pics to my BM and a few friends (and of course the parents because they were there when I chose it) but I wish I didn't show some of my friends and let it be a surprise detail.  The rest that asked I just gave them a vague idea of what it looked like.  

almost-a-bride

My sister, mom, and ML were with me when I got my dress and they were the only ones I let see it. I kept it a surprise for everyone else.

futuremrsgates

I'm only planning to let my mom, FMIL, g-ma, maid of honor and matron of honor see the dress before my wedding, but knowing me, I'm sure all my BMs will see - but that's it!

random4180

My mom, my dad, my sisters, and my sister-in-law have seen my dress but no one else yet. I'd probably show my FMIL and FSILs if they asked but they haven't yet.

Cortney1982

I shopped with my FMIL, she is the only one who has seen it.  When I get it, I'm going to take a picture of me in it and e-mail to my sister since she would like to see it.  But that is it!

kawanaperkins

If you're already worried abotu too many people seeing it, I wouldn't show  bunch of people. close friends and family....anyone you're worried won't know how formal the wedding is, you show them the dress, bam they now see they may need a more formal apparel.....but bottom line is on you. my fiancee picked my dress out....I consider him my nearest and dearest...so I wanted him there!

mandi921vh

I showed a picture of me in it to my mom (she was with me when I got it), my sister, my grandmother, one of my aunts, two of my cousins, my MOH, and 2 friends who are also BMs. I told FMIL what it looks like. No one else has really asked. 

Just show it to those you want to see it. Others you can be vague about the details, or just say that you want to keep it a surprise.

AurorasEnvy

I showed a photo of it I had in my purse from dress shopping to a fair amount of people (friends and family).  I'd show it to who you want, esp. if you are pretty far out from your wedding.  I was probably 9-12 months out when I showed people.

I know it is a HUGE deal to us brides, and probably the most important garment we will ever buy...but even if you show other people, they'll very likely forget by the time of your wedding what it looks like or that you even showed it to them!  So, show it to who want want now =]

meganb1977

I've been pretty open about showing it, especially if people ask, although fiance is traditional and wants to be surprised so we're trying to be careful of that.  I was especially glad I showed my one close friend, because she ended up passing away unexpectedly and it meant a lot to me to know that even if she won't physically be there to see the dress on my wedding day, she saw a picture of it and I got her seal of approval.

StephBeanWed61502

I'm showing pretty much anyone who asks (except FI!).  I figure I'm going to look totally different in it on my wedding day anyway, when it's my own custom dress (instead of the too-big sample clipped to my body), and with my hair and makeup done, so I'm not too worried about ruining the "surprise" of it.

Magdala9

I showed Mom, Grandma, SILs (both sides of the family) and the MOHs.  I mentioned the vendor and style in general to people at parties but did not show off my gown.    After two very good friends who are really nice people turned into bridezillas, I was actively trying not to be a bridezilla and have it all be about me.

rascal17

If you want to show off your dress then I say go for it. Remember you will be all dolled up the day of so it wont be the same as when you tried it on in the store or a picture of a model wearing it. 

I personally want the surprise so only my mom, godmom (bought me the dress), and FI knows what my dress looks like. Mom and god mom were with me when I tried it on and ordered it. FI was going on about crazy attire he wants to wear and silly accessories he wanted me to wear and wouldnt take no as an answer so I showed him the dress to let him see how his plans didnt match my dress and would look out of place. I figured it was fine to show him because it was the model in the dress and not me so it will look differents and I will have a veil and be all done up the day of.

jemmini6

Between actually seeing me in the dress in person and seeing pictures of me in the dress, only 6 people saw it before the wedding. My mom, sister & bridesmaid went shopping with me, then I showed pictures to my other sister (who lived out of state at the time), my MIL, and one of my best guy friends from college.

Part of it was that I wanted to surprise everyone, but mostly my H, and the less people that knew about it, the better the surprise would be kept from him.

rlavach

I only showed my parents, MOH and BM. 4 people, that's it. I just don't get why people ask! A few have & I've playfully avoided the topic & moved on. I've never asked a woman what her gown will look like. I'll find out soon enough. Plus, I'd REALLY never ask someone if I'm not certain I'm even invited! Some people...

trixie549

Only my parents and MOH have seen photos of me in my dress. A few other people (friends, relatives and co-workers) have asked about it and I've been fairly vague with details. I'm not trying to be super secretive...I just don't feel like it' necessary to give everything away before the big day!

NOLAbridealmost

I showed a ton of people. I can't even remember who all asked, but it still felt super special on the day of the wedding.

Sydney91

I'm a very different girlie here I guess. My fiance and I looked together and he picked out a few he really liked. I took the common threads he liked and added the ones I approved of to my list of wants. My fiance and I are getting pictures done before the ceremony to free up time during the cocktail hour. He's going to be seeing it before the ceremony anyway and we don't hold much to tradition. He's not going to see it in the weeks leading up to the wedding but I will show him when I buy it.

sfrederi21

My mom, one bridesmaid, and the MOH are the only ones who have seen me in it. I let anybody else who wants to see it (including the fiance) see it on the hanger, but I won't be putting it on again until the wedding other than to get it fitted. I will probably have my MOH present for that. I even put a picture of just the bodice up on facebook as sort of a "teaser" for my friends. Bottom line is, I don't care who sees it on the hanger because as great as it looks hanging there, it doesn't compare to how beautiful it's going to look on the wedding day with the veil, shoes, accessories and ME in it!!