I am posting to see if anyone else out there is going through this, or has advice.
My wedding is in December of this year. I planned a vintage-inspired reception, that I wanted to have an old Hollywood feel. The (Catholic) ceremony is at 2pm and the reception is from 5pm-10pm.
For months, I have been asking my fiance to look at tuxes. He refused, insisting that getting a classic black tux is "quick."
Now he wants to wear a morning coat (think Royal Wedding)! He's really insistant that it is "proper etiquette" (though where this came from and why he is so hung up on it now, I don't know). I really don't like the idea--not because the suit looks bad on him, but because it just doesn't go with anything I planned (theme, custom bride and groom cake topper, colors (which are all gold tones and I painstakingly arranged to remove all hints of silver/gray in decor etc). I also think it looks costumey.
He didn't want to be involved in planning, colors, decor, etc. We always said "simple and classic." I banked on the plain black tux. He doesn't understand how his choice of attire will change the whole look of our wedding, and how much work went into the planning. When I try to explain, he falls back on the British rule that you can't wear a tux before 6pm. This grates me even more, because I WANTED an evening wedding, but the church rules got in the way and this feels like salt on a still open wound. There is no comprimise (he won't wear 2 outfits). Either he get's what he wants, or I do... This is terrible.
What gives? What is wrong with a plain black tux that looks stunning (in my opinion) ALL of the time? Why is my rugged man who normally shuns style etiquette becoming the fashion police? Won't he look like weird dancing into the wee hours of the night in a morning coat?