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Crushed about wedding gown.

I stumbled across a gown online and fell in love with it, problem was it was way out of my price range so I started looking for a similar style that I could afford. My parentsknew about the gown I loved and surprised me by taking me to a salon to try it on, telling me they would pay for it as contribution toward the wedding my FI and I are paying for ourselves. In April 2012 my parents put $300 down as installment toward the $1,800 gown. Then, this morning my father dropped on me that he would not be contributing toward the gown. I'm crushed, I had paid $100.00 toward the gown a month after the first deposit since I received a call saying a payment hadn't been made that month, my parents yelled at me for making the payment saying they would handle it and my mom put $50 toward the gown the month after that. They haven't made any further payments toward the gown and now don't intend to. Overall $450.00 has been paid so far and I had taken my gown out of our original budget since I believed my parents were paying, my original budget was $1,000. Do I just walk away at this point from my dream gown or scrounge and purchase it? I had planned for a photobooth, I can cut that out of the wedding saving $800 that I can now put toward a gown. In additon to being crushed about the gown, I am extremely angry with myself for being selfish and believing they were going to actually give me such a generous gift.
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  • Did they give you a reason why they were backing out of paying for it?  If it were me, I would skip the photobooth and have the gown. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • My parents have always just been unreliable, I didn't even bother asking for an explanation. Now I'm battling with the internal anger at myself because of all this.
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  • I think you have every right to be upset since they told you they would pay for it and even starting paying for it!
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  • I say you should cut the photobooth and get your dream dress. Plus you'd be losing all that money towards the dress that you and your parents have already put into it if you don't, which would put a hit on your budget.

    I'm sorry this happened to you. A similar situation happened to me this past fall when I was getting ready to buy my gown. My dad offered to pay and never got around to doing it. I had to pay for it myself--boo for unreliable parents! 

    Take this as a lesson for the rest of the wedding not to count on them for any contributions! 
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  • Oh man.. I can completely relate to you regarding unreliable parents.. My mom means well, but she always promises things and never follows through. She did something similar for our wedding, but luckily I just smiled and nodded when she made the offer, and went about my business. When she didn't follow through it was no surprise, so I wasn't out anything like you are now. 

    I'm sorry :( 
    My thoughts... 

    the gown is 1,800
    450 is also put down on it. 
    So now the gown is 1,350.
    You put down 100/1,000 that you can afford, so once you pay the 900, you still need to make up for 450. 
    The photo booth is 800. Scratch it. Now you have paid for the dress with 350 to spare. 
    Use that as a cushion because things always end up popping up last minute. 
    OR make your own DIY photo booth (bedsheet or whathaveyou for the back drop, DIY silly props, etc) and ask your photographer if she could take pictures of people there, or set up your own tripod so people can put their own camera on it and take pictures of themselves. 

  • Firsttimer has a great suggestion, although the $350 leftover (or part of it) will likely be needed for alterations so scratch the photo booth.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_crushed-about-wedding-gown?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:bfb8ee7d-a772-4d57-860f-864c99df1553Post:b74eb57b-9c54-4488-bf5f-b822c1f4a53a">Re: Crushed about wedding gown.</a>:
    [QUOTE]My parents have always just been unreliable, I didn't even bother asking for an explanation. Now I'm battling with the internal anger at myself because of all this.
    Posted by JoeAnne2013[/QUOTE]
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    </div><div>that REALLY sucks.</div><div>
    </div><div>If I were you...i would figure out a way to afford it.  TO me....my dress was the biggest purchase we have made in our wedding besides the reception dinner, and the single most important item to purchase besides FI ring.</div><div>
    </div><div>I would go on a pop can returning spree if it meant getting my dress LOL....but thats just me,</div><div>
    </div><div>Sorry they did that to you...I know your probably used to it but thats hugely messed up. <3</div>
    Christie + Chad ~June 8, 2013~
     CPT & mama to 9 kids, one SIL & a grandbaby girl!
  • I would cut the photobooth.  Also discuss this problem with the bridal shop.  They may have some options to help you.
  • crazypugladycrazypuglady member
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    edited February 2013
    Sorry that happened to you. Cut the photobooth... or do a DIY one if you really really wanted it (as proposed by firsttimersluck) Your dress is what everyone's going to be looking at ;)
  • yea. forget the booth. I actually cut some little things like bubbles for guests after the ceremony, a candy bar, etc so i could get my dream dress that was 600 over my budget.. well worth it:D
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