Garter.....YES OR NO????

SoonToBeMrsSiq

Is anyone not doing a garter or garter toss?  Still on the fence about this tradition!

LeiselEB

I'm not doing it. I think it's a bit disturbing that people would want to watch my fiance fish around under my dress for a garter and then throw it to people to catch. I honestly can't understand how that would be appealing to anyone, but I know that some people like it.

Is it typically done at weddings in your circle? Would your friends enjoy it? If you're comfortable with it, there's no reason not to do it, but you don't HAVE to.

Sydney91

I am definitely doing the garter and bouquet toss. I am super duper shy and am making myself do something I am uncomfortable doing to prove to myself that I can. And in the process make myself a little less shy. It's going to be fun and embarrassing, but I'm in the process of prying myself out of my shell and having tons of fun doing it. I don't care if it's tacky. So is half the wedding mumbo-jumbo! It's a party and I aim to have fun and lots of it.

jagore08

We also didn't do a garter toss nor a bouquet toss.  I hate the idea of singling out our single friends and I didn't want DH to go up my skirt in front of the entire reception.  No one missed it.

acaponi87

I may wear a garter for FI to find later in the night but I will not be doing a garter toss. That creeps me out.

Avion22

We're not doing a garter toss, but I may wear a garter for him to find later:-)

hollyweenOR

No garter or bouquet toss. But I've also considered a garter for later!

Johan&Kimmie

FI and I are considering doing option number 3 from this blog.  It's an anniversary dance where the winning couple get the bouquet and garter and after the DJ/MC invites them to give the bride and groom words of wisdom.  I think it's sweet.  

http://thetwentysomethingblog.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/wedding-wednesdays-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-99

blgrout

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[QUOTE]FI and I are considering doing option number 3 from this blog.  It's an anniversary dance where the winning couple get the bouquet and garter and after the DJ/MC invites them to give the bride and groom words of wisdom.  I think it's sweet.  :) <a href="http://thetwentysomethingblog.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/wedding-wednesdays-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-99" rel="nofollow">http://thetwentysomethingblog.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/wedding-wednesdays-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-99</a>
Posted by Johan&Kimmie[/QUOTE]

<div>We're considering doing the same thing also. We definitely are not doing a bouquet or garter toss, since I don't have a lot of single friends, it feels so stupid to me to single out the ones that are and make them try to catch a bouquet  FI feels the same.  We are doing an anniversary dance, but we haven't decided if we will give them the bouquet and garter, or just give them something else, or no prize at all.</div><div>
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Cupcakes247

We are not doing the garter toss, we both agree it is tacky. But I'm wearing a garter as my something blue

FaithCaitlin

We aren't doing it. Tacky and awkward, IMO.

xobride

We have no single people attending other than children so there's no point in it and it can get pretty ugly from what I've seen at past weddings.  I made my own garter and plan to wear it since it's a tradition, but not have my new husband up under my gown fishing for it in front of his parents and our children.  That being said, I don't mind if other people do it, it's just not for me.

AurorasEnvy

We're not doing a garter/bouquet toss either.  Although I am wearing a garter because I think they are pretty, and we can have our own private removal after the reception is over =]

I went to a wedding recently where they had planned on doing it, but the party was just going so strong the DJ asked the bride & groom beforehand if they really wanted to him clear the (packed) dance floor just to do it.  They said no, and no one missed it.

Most girls don't like being herded out onto an empty dance floor, highlighting the fact that they are single, to try and catch the bouquet.  Maybe it is a little bit different now since most of my friends are in their late 20s or older.  I don't think anyone would miss it if you skipped it.

Sophia1913

We also aren't doing a toss but I'm wearing one for later.  I found one I really like on Etsy where the seller is putting an engraved heart on it so once I saw that, I had to have it.

trixie549

I personally HATE being herded onto the dance floor for the bouquet toss at weddings - it's really embarassing to label all the single people in the room for such a silly, tacky tradition. Most of my friends feel the same way, so obvioiusly, we are skipping the garter and bouquet tosses.

island07b2b

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[QUOTE]We're not doing a garter toss, but I may wear a garter for him to find later:-)
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

THIS!

Epiphany1031

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Posted by island07b2b[/QUOTE]

Me too! I wasn't even going to wear a garter until I found a beautiful one on etsy. Now I'm wearing one, but no garter toss.

peachykd

No garter toss, but I'm wearing one for a photo op and for later!

Elle1036

Yeah, no toss for us. Isn't the garter removal supposed to symbolize consummating the marriage? I don't need that going on in front of my family. Ick.

rzumbrum

Im opting out for the garter and bouquet toss!! I have always disliked those "traditions". I am not having a traditional wedding so it is easy to omit the things i dislike.  You should do what you really want, dont think about everyone else!

SunBear22

Not doing the garter or bouquet toss, but like many others, I'm wearing a garter for later.

Mishe+Neo

No objects will be thrown at my reception either. But if that floats your boat, I think you should go for it!

kaceymarie

ugh no. my wedding is pretty simple and not too close to tradition. we aren't even having dancing..

gsg717

I'll be doing the bouquet toss. I was afraid none of my friends would want to do it, but apparently they're all looking forward to it, including my mom!

I'm still on the fence with the garter thing. I'd sworn up and down since I was young that I would NOT do it b/c I just don't want him going up my dress in front of my family. But both of my parents think I should suck it up and go for it. If I do, the garter will be at my knee so that he's not going up too far for it. But then what to do with the garter? FI thinks his friends will have no interest in catching it and going any further. So more than likely, the garter will be left for our private, post wedding fun 

I've always enjoyed those two events at other ppl's weddings though. Do what you're comfortable with, it's your wedding. It's not anything new so nobody will be surprised if you do it (depending on your circle, of course).

stefaniewattie

WOW, I'm so shocked by all the no's on here, maybe its just my area, or my circle, but not doing the tosses would be really strange.
We are for sure doing them, its tradition! I've been to weddings where the groom gets really into it and I love it.
However, please don't make the guy who catches the garter put it on the girl who caught the bouquet or make them dance together..etc.
Its REALLY awkward for all involved.
This happened to me once and my COUSIN caught the garter. :S worst experience ever

JGreenfan2000

we are kind of we are doing a wish toss that way everyone can take part in it. we are going to ask everyone to catch it a make a wish. 

libby2483

I'm also surprised by all of the no's on here.  We are definitely doing both a garter and a bouquet toss.  I've never been to a wedding where they didn't do both, so I guess it is just more common in my area/circle of family and friends.

iloveu4ever

I might. I only have few single friends.

MiLadyK

Not a chance. We're not throwing things or having any ritualized undressing. Both FI and I always find both "traditions" to be cringe inducing.

smahama

I've known since I was a little kid. NO WAY am I doing a garter toss. I think it's the most tacky, horrible tradition. Ick. I don't have a problem with bouquet tosses but I'm probably not going to do one because I'm having a small wedding and wont have very many single guests.

culturalrelativist

I also have never been to a wedding that hasn't had those things. Also don't think the FH would let me get away without it. I guess if it was up to me I might not, as I rarely participated in the bouquet toss when I was single.  However, neither of us are shy, and I have no qualms about parents whatsoever.