FMIL

lcorey

Is FMIL usually included in wedding dress shopping? I invited her once and she told me she was busy and I'm not sure if she was saying that because she didn't want to go or if she was really busy. Getting my sister and my mom to go with me is hassle enough with our schedules, adding another person would be chaos. I just don't want to not include her if it's good ettiquete.

reese511

i'm not including my FMIL.  she's never expressed any interest.  and its really something i just wanted to do w/ my mom and MOH.  i dont think there is a particular etiquette on this one....it depends on your relationship w/ her.

dittmerbullard2010

My FMIL did not come with me dress shopping, but not because I didn't want her to. Our schedules just didn't match up. I think it's a personal choice, there is no right or wrong answer here.

As for your FMIL, if I were you, I'd ask her one more time. Tell her you'd love to have her join you. If she again declines, I'd go without her.

MobKaz

In my daughter's case, she invited her FMIL for the initial trip but FMIL was unable to attend.  FMIL seemed to be sincerely disappointed to have a conflict.  My daughter actually found her dress that day.  When her order arrived at the shop, my daughter once again invited FMIL to join us---and this time the woman jumped at the chance!  She cried as soon as she saw my daughter exit the dressing room.  FMIL also made a point to telling my daughter how honored she was to have been included in such a moment, and that friends of FMIL's also shared how unusual it was to invite a FMIL and how lucky FMIL was to be thought of in such regard.

Especially if you have no worries that FMIL might be critical of your choices, I would suggest you continue to include her in anything you feel she would have a sincere interest in joining, or in areas that she may add valuable input.....perhaps she is a gardener and is well versed with all things floral...or is quite the DIYer and would tag along to a trip to the craft store.

mysticl

I didn't even take my mother.  We live 400 miles apart.  I took my bff/moh and another friend.  Actually, they took me and I ended up with a dress.

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I think it is whatever you want. I don't think there is any etiquette persay.

My Mom went with me initally but due to our on off again relationship, when I went the second time to re-try on the 2 I had it narrowed down to, my MIL and SIL went with me. My MOH/sister had to work and since we lived out of state I had to use the time I had while being in town.

lcorey

Thanks for all of your opinions guys. I think I will ask her one more time just to make sure. Her daughter got married without even telling her and she felt left out of that, so maybe she will want to do the whole wedding dress shopping thing.

hz80408

I'd just ask her if she wants to be involved.

My FMIL and I both agreed that we wanted her to wait to see the dress on me on the day-of.

But my BF invited her FMIL since the FMIL doesn't have a daughter and BF wanted her to experience dress shopping.