White dress for 2nd wedding???

jodylynn78

I am getting married this September. I have been married before and I have a daughter. My fiance says he really would prefer that I get a white dress. I too want a white dress but am a bit worried about what others will think.

Any advice?

BTW - I'm going dress shopping tomorrow!

jessNlane52804

Of course you can wear white! I don't think white = virgin anymore. White = bride! I say it's your wedding so you should wear what makes you and your FI happy. Who care's if great aunt Sue has a problem with it.

danielle16_17

I agree with jess white=bride

PreppySailor

White can mean new beginnings, and a fresh start.

stahlop

Getting married used to just mean wearing your nicest dress.  I think it was the first Queen Elizabeth who made white dresses fashionable.  At that point, only very wealthy people could own white (it got dirty too easily), so that's when it became a bridal color.  The church decided to make it a virginal color after the fact.

kikipania

Totally wear white if you want to.

iwubrory

Where white, ivory, champagne etc... whatever color you love! I agree that white=bride!

Spim7

Wear anything you want to. I'm getting married for the 2nd time and I'm wearing ivory but only because the color looks more flattering on me.

[Deleted User]

I totally agree with what the other girls said. Despite it being your second time, it is your day, and you should wear what makes you feel beautiful and happy. It's not to say that tradition always goes out the window these days, but I think more and more brides are incorporating old traditions and also setting their own traditions/trends, etc. Good Luck shopping!

klwithers

Go for it!  I think people would "talk" more if you weren't wearing a white/ivory dress.  I didn't even consider wearing anything but a white gown, and my FI and I have a 10 month old daughter.

Happy Shopping

SuMmErKuTiE

Go for the white dress! If that's what you and your FI want then go for it! White definitely doesn't symbolize virgin anymore considering most girls no longer wait for marriage. It's your day and it's about what you want! I agree with pp's white=BRIDE!

Katie829

lets be honest, if white meant virgin-- how many brides would be wearing white- not too many.. but like the pp said.. white=bride, and i believe that is so true. wear what you want, regardless of what others think. and if someone were to say something to u, brush them off

Collinsmommy and seans so

I agree with everyone. Wear what you want. White is an antiquated tradition. Our son will be a little over two and will be in our wedding. I ended up going with ivory but I never felt it would be inappropriate to wear white nor did anyone else. 

melvega

Don't forget that the one who should be pleased is you. If you want a white dress or an ivory dress, or whatever, of course you can do it!

kelly-sean

I think that you should wear whatever color you feel most comfortable in for your big day.  If you find a white dress that you fall in love with, don't be afraid to rock it if it will make you feel your best on your day.  You will have these pictures and memories forever, and it would be a shame if you always looked back and wished that you had worn what you really wanted.  With that said, it doesn't matter what color it is as long as you love it!

Michelle Dawson

This is my first wedding, however, my 8 year old son is going to be my ringbearer. I am wearing the traditional big white dress with a semi-cathedral train and I really doubt that anyone will be offended. Most people don't even expect a bride to be a virgin anymore.

melissa64

did u get the white dress??? i  am thinking the same thing????help

Greg&I

OK, first, virgin brides definitely exist   but I also think you should wear what you want. Obviously if you're getting married again, the first time wasn't "perfect" and I think you deserve "perfect" and if wearing white will make it so, then I say go for it. If you are worried about it, they do make "ivory" that is so close to white that you can't tell unless you put it right up next to a white gown. No one would notice it not being white, except the few that might think you should be wearing ivory (this gives them no room to gossip). I guess what I'm saying is that, it's so close to white, that it will look white to the people that think it's ok to wear white, but it will look enough like ivory that those people who just want to criticize won't have anything to criticize about. Not sure if this advice is that great, but I think that you shouldn't have to worry about what everyone else wants, but if you are this might be a good solution. Best of luck!

jodylynn78

Thanks everyone! I went shopping on Thursday. I tried on 9 dresses. I am going back this morning with my daughter to show her. And  yes, it's white!

jodylynn78

Ok, so I ended up with ivory. I tried on a pure white dress and it really didn't look as good with my complexion.

My fiance really loves white. I'm terrified that he will be disappointed!!!