Who's getting walked up the aisle?

litskispecialty

Good morning,

Just curious who you are having walked up the aisle at your wedding.  FI apparently was not aware that your mother and I think ususally grandmother gets walked up by an usher, sibling, GM etc. even though we've been to a million weddings where this happened.

I was hoping to have both mom's, his grandmother and my godmother get walked up the aisle at the beginning of the ceremony.  One of my best friends will walk my godmother up, my brother will prob. walk my mom up even though he's not a GM.  FI's brother is the best man so he can walk FI's mom and one of the GM's could walk FI's grandmother.

Also, are you double dipping if you will and having your GM's be ushers, or do we need to pick additional people to be ushers?  FI has 5 GM's so I figured they can just do both.

Thanks

Jillibeans11681

Our groomsmen are doing both. Most weddings I've been to they've done double-duty. My mother is walking down the aisle by herself, I've seen a few mothers of the brides do this. She doesn't have sons, so to have her walk down with a guy she doesn't know was just weird to me. His mom is also walking down by herself, she's a widow and since my mom was going alone she said she would, too. My godparents are actually starting the procession, followed by my grandfather, the groomsmen, the moms, bridesmaids and myself and my dad. A word of advice, it's usually tradition to have the flower girls and ring bearer before the bride; send them down before your MOH. People ooooh and ahhhh over the kids and it can take away from your entrance. Really, how you do your procession is personal, so I don't think it makes a difference one way or the other, just do what you feel comfortable with.

chelley599

Not really sure.  I know the GM are also our ushers as most wedding that I have been to are done.  The mothers and grandmothers will be walked down the aisle. 

cg-pm52111

We didn't have the grandmothers or the mothers walk down the aisle.  The chapel was just so small and I didn't feel it was necessary.  And my mother didn't seem to care.  Maybe you should ask them if they have a preference.  And really, I think your groomsmen could perform that duty if you decide that's what you want to do.

litskispecialty

We can't have a ring bearer or flower girl because our wedding is adult only.  I didn't want FI's niece because I'm not close to her, his family has never called me "auntie m" in the 3.5 years she's been around and so I decided not to have anyone else although I wanted the kids I used to babysit for.  Meh whatever.  His family would do that though be more excited over the flower girl than me.  Not to be rude but it's the one day I get so pay attention to the bride.

Thanks for the advice ladies I think it's a great idea to do the godmother, grandmother then moms.  I guess they all could walk up on their own, I'm just trying to find ways to tie in others like my friend and my brother as he's not a GM.

ericcaah

We had DH's great-grandmother, his two grandmothers, his mom, and my mom all escorted up the aisle. My mom is a widow, so she wanted someone to escort her up so she wasn't alone - we had my brother-in-law escort her, even though he wasn't in the bridal party. It was a nice way to have him involved in our wedding 
 
If you have more people that you'd like to have involved in your wedding, you could certainly ask some additional guys to be ushers to seat guests and escort the godparents/moms/grandparents if you choose. We just had each of the groomsmen escort one of them down the aisle, and one of the groomsmen escorted two, since we had 3 groomsmen for four women. We also had our groomsmen escort guests to their seats, and sit the bride's family on the left and the groom's family on the right.

Luv2Cook27

We had -
DH stand up at the alter with a GM and the Officiant -

BIL (who was the best man) walk his Grandmother
My Brother (groomsmen) walk up my grandmother
DH''s Parents ~ walk in together

BM
MOH
FGs
Me and my Mom & Dad

chayer227

Traditionally, the Best Man stands up front with your officiant and your FI, he wouldn't usher anyone anywhere, his job is to keep FI calm and occupied while they wait for the ceremony to start.
GM usually do the ushering also.  You can do whatever you want.  Something to consider: having additional people as ushers makes your "wedding party" even bigger.  This increases the number of boutonnieres and gifts you should buy, and more people to invite to your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner...
We had DH's cousin escort my mom and one of my BIL's escort MIL down the aisle.  Do whatever works for you.

mariegra

Grandmother escorted by Best Man, followed by Groom's mother escorted by GM, followed by Bride's mother, escorted by GM.  Then BMs, Honor Attendant (MOH is a guy), then the RB, then the "Jr. Bridesmaid/Flower Attendant", (age 12), followed by Bride escorted by Father.