WHY are men so stubborn? Bowtie vs. normal tie

CaitlinB516

I am having an argument with FI...

opalsky007

What milkduds said--it's his wedding too, and he has to wear it. But I do prefer neckties, if the guy likes them.

aerinpegadrak

I prefer a four-in-hand, but your FI should be the one who gets the final decision.

babblingbrookey

Okay I voted the bow ties, I think regular ties might look better but I know my FI wants to wear a bow tie. Brides get to pick so much, why not let him pick something he wants to do. Just be happy he doesn't want to wear a light blue suit or something really crazy.

aesisson88

I voted neck ties. If my FI wanted to wear a bow tie I would let him though. It's his wedding just as much as mine.

ali79ger

I voted bowtie - FI recently convinced me that that's his choice and I think its up to your venue, BM dresses, formality to determine if its the best move. 

bethsmiles

I vote whichever one your FI wants. Is he picking your dress? probably not so you should let him dress himself on his wedding day. Is it really that big of deal either way?

SuMmErKuTiE

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_men-stubborn-bowtie-vs-normal-tie?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:f75dba52-f4fb-4a0f-a8da-df121b23c38dPost:e52bf8d4-0b3a-4eb8-860c-68ac6bd5b908">Re: WHY are men so stubborn? Bowtie vs. normal tie</a>:
[QUOTE]What milkduds said--it's his wedding too, and he has to wear it. But I do prefer neckties, if the guy likes them.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

Ditto this.. thankfully this wasn't an issue with us. DH and I both hate bowties.

mysticl

Really, such a small detail, let him win. 

mbcdefg

Why are YOU being so stubborn by arguing with him over HIS attire?

Seriously. Butt out.

jagore08

Did he pick out your veil or jewelry?  Let him wear what he wants.

jennjep24

I agree that he should be able to wear what he wants... but I don't agree with how rudely people are saying it on here.

good luck sweetie, the stress will decline for you soon, trust me, that is one detail you won't care about the day of or after. you both will look amazing!

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_men-stubborn-bowtie-vs-normal-tie?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:f75dba52-f4fb-4a0f-a8da-df121b23c38dPost:3113d609-64d8-4f93-b8f0-170fc9823694">Re: WHY are men so stubborn? Bowtie vs. normal tie</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree that he should be able to wear what he wants... but I don't agree with how rudely people are saying it on here. good luck sweetie, the stress will decline for you soon, trust me, that is one detail you won't care about the day of or after. you both will look amazing!
Posted by jennjep24[/QUOTE]
Honey, if you think people were being rude in this thread, the Knot ain't the place for you.

kmabjo

Whatever he wants because HE is the one wearing it.

Myroni03

I think it depends on formality of the wedding. FI and GM are wearing bowties as our wedding is very formal.

beautifulbridetobe11

My FI loves neckties and I think a bow tie takes a man with a certain look, so I was all too happy to agree.
I would let him have this one. If you're like me, you've been making most of the other wedding decisions, so I try to include FI in any decisions he cares about.  He also said no bouts and my answer was "great! saves me some money!" And so far he has helped choose the photographer and the cake flavor.

laura_fett

I would let your FI choose, I thought brown tuxes would look awesome with our color scheme, chocolate brown, dark red, gold, and cream. BUT apparently FI HATES brown tuxes, so what color are the tuxes, black. It's a small detail, not worth fighting about. Let him choose what he wants to wear, GL!

kaciemtchll

I'd have to agree with most people on here. I think some women forget that it's your fiance's wedding just as much as it is yours! Let the boy wear what he wants! Its really no big deal. Nothing to fight over...enjoy the process! Don't let the stress take over. Its not about the wedding anyway...its the marriage. ENJOY!!!

zappatini

I actually stayed completely out of this decision and let him decide since it was for him and his men primarily.  They went with the tie and a vest. 

nhelene

I like neckties.  but as everyone else said, he gets to choose.

amanda.loughlin

I totally think it's his choice - you shouldn't chose for him. After all he didn't chose your dress did he? I love the look of bow ties, I think they're cute and quirky and if your groom is like that then he should do what makes him feel the most comfortable.

Maureen679

I prefer neck tie over a bow tie, however FI wants a bow tie so I am not going to fight him on this.  We talked about it but it is his day too and he should be happy with his attire for the day.  So bow tie it is.

TheCranberry

I voted bow ties because apparently the bow tie is making a comeback!!  I actually don't really care though.  I like both and agree that you should let him choose what he wants to wear. 

staceytaylor0704

My FI asked me to pick the tuxes for them, but the only thing he asked was "please no bowties!"
Luckily, I don't like them either. LOL

CaitlinB516

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_men-stubborn-bowtie-vs-normal-tie?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:f75dba52-f4fb-4a0f-a8da-df121b23c38dPost:3113d609-64d8-4f93-b8f0-170fc9823694">Re: WHY are men so stubborn? Bowtie vs. normal tie</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree that he should be able to wear what he wants... but I don't agree with how rudely people are saying it on here. good luck sweetie, the stress will decline for you soon, trust me, that is one detail you won't care about the day of or after. you both will look amazing!
Posted by jennjep24[/QUOTE]

Thank you!!

haha I didn't mean it to come off as if I'm being pushy. He's obviously going to wear what he wants :) I just wanted to see what you girls think. I don't like bowties but he does so he's getting them and I just wanted to get a feel for what other people are doing.