Am I worrying about nothing??? Need advice.

meggydoe

So I told my groomsmen they can wear dark colored suits. I'm ok with some wearing black, some navy, some grey.  I don't want them to all look like sextuplets up there.  I want their individuality to come out.  BUT, one of the groomsmen only has a light blue suit. (not sure how light!)  I cannot ask him to go buy a new suit.  Personally, it will not bother me that he will look a bit different.  I guess I'm worried about everyone else.  Should I worry about this?  

LDYGTR13

Nope. If you can't ask him to buy a new suit, you can't ask him to buy a new suit. Now if it's powder blue and he's expecting to wear a ruffle shirt...then maybe you can go in with him on renting a suit...but if it's not that extreme, and you said so yourself that it doesn't bother you that they're not all matchy matchy, I say it'll be okay

opalsky007

If anything, I think that having the guys wear suits they already own makes you a very gracious and accomodating bride. That's great. Are you giving your bridesmaids flexibility too?

The people who will find fault with something like non-matching attire are the people who will always find something to complain about. Don't worry about them.

meggydoe

My bridesmaids are all wearing the same dress. They were all excited about getting 'the dress' so I feel they are a bit different than the groomsmen. Many of the groomsmen are financially unable to go buy a new suit, thats why we told them they could wear what they already have. And many of them are musicians/artists--they have their own 'look'....I want them to be themselves.  I'm not going the traditional route with this wedding anyway.  I guess a lot of this worrying leads back to my MIL and SIL....they are already freaking out that the groomsmen are not wearing tuxes.  

opalsky007

Moms and older sisters are always the first to freak out about this stuff. I think your WP will look great, and the guys will all be much happier in clothes they're comfortable with and used to wearing.

ring_pop

I find it kind of funny that he ONLY owns a light blue suit. But that's beside the point.

If you don't have a problem with it, go ahead!

You may very well get some comments. I had told our guys to wear black suits and the best man showed up in a more casual looking charcoal grey sports jacket with his shirt untucked, looking rather unkempt in general. My dad pulled me aside, rather annoyed, and asked what was up with our best man and his attire. But I didn't care one bit and when my dad saw that I just shrugged it off, there was nothing else he could do... after all, who would WANT to ruin the bride's day? Besides, what was I going to do, send him home?

ring_pop

I guess my point is, don't let people like your MIL and SIL stress you out on your wedding day!

Midgetth

Listen it's your wedding.  My mom, grandma, FMIL are all freaking out because I'm letting the guys wear their work boots instead of those fancy shoes. I laugh at it because it made my guys so happy cuz that's all they wear is steal toe work boots & are uncomfy in sneakers. Do what you want if you're ok w/it then who cares? It's something to talk about & it makes your wedding more memorable & something for you & groom to smirk & laugh about 50 years down the road.

dwebster02

if you're not going to ask him to buy a new suit, and YOU aren't really worried about it, then don't worry about everyone else. 

jessicarabbit501

i told my bridesmaid to find a dark purple dress (eggplant, etc.) and silver shoes in whatever style they wanted.  my only requirement was that hey be able to wear it again.  

groomsmen will be in dark suits (most have  basic black but one will be in pinstripes) and FI is gifting ties and cufflinks to them.  I'm super excited for our pictures bc everyone will look different.  I think it'll provide some really nice contrast.

meggydoe

Ha!  It is funny that the ONLY suit this groomsman has is light blue!!   Well.....at least they will all have on matching boutonnieres!!!!

spinner84

Does this groomsman also have a 1970s mustache?

Honestly I would look into renting him a suit, because light blue is pretty out there. If you really don't care, then it's fine, but I think suit rentals are a possibility.

meggydoe

Yeah....I'm starting to think he needs to wear something else.

aerinpegadrak

Well, you told him any dark suit, and you know he can't afford to buy a new dark one.  Your options are pretty much to either accept that he's going to wear a lighter suit and stand out, or pay for him to rent/buy something more in line with what the other guys are wearing.  Either is fine, really.