And I'm the bride! We are flying back to my home state to get married. My fiance is having his friend from out here fly out with us, but he doesn't have the funds to do it so my fiance offered to pay for his ticket. I have no idea why he offered that because he can't afford his own ticket (which I'm paying for) so guess who ended up paying the $400 plane ticket for the best man?? That's right-ME! Then they will be staying at a hotel and will need to rent a car, which again neither can afford so I get to rent them a car. And I'm sure they aren't going to be able afford 4 nights at the hotel which I'll probably pay for as well. I told him that my friend's husband who lives out there offered to be his best man but he wanted his friend from here.
Oh and that's not all! The wedding is a month away and just this past weekend his mom emails him and says that it may just end up being her and not his stepdad as well coming out to the wedding because he's out of work and they have 3 dogs which they don't trust anyone to take care of so he'd have to stay home. The only way they could bring the dogs is to take the RV and they don't have the money for gas and a rental site for 4 nights. I saw that email and I was like "no it's not an option for just his mom to come alone. Plans are being made for him to come as well. So I told my fiance that I'd give them a check for $400 so they could come out together.
So there's $800 out of MY pocket for people on HIS side to come. If none of those people came, he wouldn't have anyone there since those are all the people on his side that are coming. I'd have 60 people and he'd have just his Mom.
Am I wrong to be upset about this? My fiance keeps saying "Well you're the one who wanted all this" and I tell him time and time again that I didn't want ANY of this-it's what my Mom wants. We are spending crazy amounts of money for something neither of us wants. And of course I can't tell my family that I'm paying for the best man and his parents to come out because they would be shocked that I had to pay for it.