So, seriously, I am an a'hole???

the_mulva

on the blog thing w/ my SIL?  for those who did not read the "confessions" thread, she's having infertility issues, and she's on 9million hormones.  she has a blog about it.  i found it and read it.  (partially b/c i'm nosey and partially b/c I care, but don't want to overstep my boundaries by asking about it all the time) Yesterday, the entire entry was how much I suck b/c i made an "insensitive comment", (which was interpreted crazy wrong, and not insensitive).  I feel all bad and sh*t b/c I really shouldn't have been reading the thing in the first place.  And now, she knows i've been reading it b/c she password protected the entry about me yesterday...I suck right?  BRING IT ON!  FLAME ME!

BobLoblaw

I think a lot of infertile women think it's all about them and it ain't.Word. Not to dismiss her troubles, but there are a lot worse things than IF. She could have c-c-c-c-cancer. Your comment wasn't terrible. 

pdxmouse

I don't get how she got offended by that. But grief + hormones will do strange things. Personally if I knew my SIL approved of my having a ranty space even when it involved her, I'd feel a bit closer to her. Do you think dropping a note to that affect would help?

the_mulva

just so you all know, i only feel bad about the blog thing.  not the comment... the comment wasn't insensitive.  if she interpreted it that way, that's her issue, and while i never intended to make her feel badly, I'm not going to feel guilty about her being a nutso.

shanollee

but Babbs, even IF Mulva has meant it as a baby thing, "ala I wish I could go but I can't because of the baby" that should be ok to say, even to someone who is having trouble conceiving.I agree with Mod.  It's like how that one chick on Top Chef this week kept whining about doing the bachelor/bachelorette elimination challenge because she's gay and not legally allowed to get married

CaliopeSpidrman

Yeah, I guess I can see how she'd misunderstand your comment because her whole world is way too wrapped up in her infertility, but I don't think any of this makes you a douchebag.  But I also wonder if maybe you're reading into the password protected blog too much.  Maybe she just did it in case you or another family member came across it and not because she knows you read her blog.

Mrs.Babbsy

Mulva, your comment was definitely in no way insensitive and there are worse things than being infertile. It's the effing hormones. They are evil. I did some crazy crap on them myself and look back now and can't believe how I acted at times. You SIL will look back at it all once she is off the hormones and probably feel horrible.

TSD

What if all the wealthy people got up in arms about it thinking it was insensitive to them for having money. I would have taken it as a money thing, not a baby thing. Or not taken it as anything- just that you couldn't go. Weird.

katie.i.do

i still don't see how she would even know you read the blog, or how that relates to the facebook comment.

tastyburger

well then I think I'll flame you for feeling guilt over reading a publically posted blog.  HELLO.  what are ya, Captain Softie on the freaking Peace, Love, and Understanding Boat?  geez.

modb1rd

Feh on the internet means available to read. So she password protected it, now you won't read it any more. Do not feel bad. Unless you are dangling a baby in front of her and chanting "Not Yours" you should not feel bad.

FallinAgain

I'm trying to understand why you feel bad about reading a blog that is inherently public.  You didn't go in her room and snoop throough her doors and read her diary.  If she put it out there and then regretted it, that's on her, not you.

CaliopeSpidrman

I think Mod has just come up with the next logical step for you  -- make your FB profile pic a variation of Mod's siggy with a picture of a baby and "NOT YOURS" underneath.

FallinAgain

doors = drawers.Also, grief and personal crises are not licenses to take your shiit out on other people just because they do not have the same issues that you do.

jbloom

Your being an a'hole was already established along time ago, Mulva.(better?)

MadameS

lol.

CaliopeSpidrman

OMG you apologized?  What an insensitive jerk you are.

the_mulva

yeah, okay, you know, this is really f'ing stupid.  i think i'm over it now.

the_mulva

Your being an a'hole was already established along time ago, Mulva.(better?)pffft, uh YEAH!

MadameS

so what exactly did she say about you on her blog?

jbloom

Yeah, did she mention you specifically, or was she as passive-aggressive about it there as she was about suddenly shutting it down after you happened upon her "private" thoughts?

the_mulva

here is the gist:I had the greatest most wonderful SIL EVER (<--shocking, right??), until this comment:  insert comment hereHow could she say that?  rub salt in HER WOUNDS???!!  she's knows about everything i'm going through!  How could she!  f' her!!And then, how she feels completely isolated by "fertiltes", even those in her own family.

MadameS

what a victim.barf.

BobLoblaw

That honestly sounds like a lot of the infertile posters on the Bump. So weird, that reaction. Sorry dude.

jbloom

GUFFAW!  "fertiles!"

the_mulva

hahahhahaha....

wingedbride

this is just the weirdest thing.

KristenBtobe

Fertiles? No, you didn't do anything wrong.

samfish2bcrab

I'm dying to make a Xtranormal movie about this, but my sensitivity chip won't allow me to make a diologue that's appropriate.   I wish i was Sarah Silverman right now.

BobLoblaw

Dooooooo ittttttttttt. Or I'll put your bra in the freezer at FL.

samfish2bcrab

my nips might like the exercise