Help w/STD & invitation etiquette...

alfdallas21

Hello ladies - I have a quick etiquette question and I honestly don't know how to handle it...here's the deets:  S-T-D were sent out earlier this month regarding upcoming party; I will be sending the invites next week.  However, there are (2) couples that I really don't want to invite to the party anymore (FYI - I didn't want to send the S-T-D to these two couples in the first place, long story)...I really really don't want to send an invite to them as I truly do not want to 'party' with them BUT I do know that the door has been opened up = WHAT SHOULD I DO???

TIA for your input...

Mariah09202008

I don't know.  On one hand, I totally understand that circumstances happen that would cause you to really, really  not want to invite them anymore...but at the same time, you already sent them a STD.  Proper ettiquette would be to suck it up and send them an invite since you already sent the STD.  But I think it's really your call.  It may cause a loss of friendship if you don't send the formal invitation, so I think it's up to you to decide what you think you should do. 

stephl3055

Most people would agree that a STD equals an invitation.  What are the chances that these people will even come if you invite them? 

alfdallas21

mariah - I hear ya and I so so conflicted because 90% of the time I try to follow proper etiquette but in the case of these 2 couples - that thought process has gone out the door...LOL!

good question steph13055 - the chances for 1 couple to come is very very low however they still might come, never know with them BUT the thing about the 2nd couple is that word has gotten back to me that the hubby has to work the day of the party and his wife has mentioned to someone else she's gonna just bring her sister with her - hmmm, this party is not a backyard  bbq kind of thing where it doesn't matter who you bring; not to mention the party info has not been disclosed yet so they have no idea if there is going to be a cost involved or an OOT event - plus the wife of the 2nd couple hasn't even mentioned to ME that her hubby won't be able to make it and if it's OK to bring her sister...so to say I'm irritated with the lack of respect when it comes to assumption of someone just bringing an alternate person to my party, is an understatement...side note:  this party is a couples party, so that is why I'm irritated...